I’m a single mother who has not dated in three years. Given my circumstances, meeting men is rather difficult so I decided to try the online personals. EVERYtime I think i’m chatting with a decent guy, he ALWAYS turns the conversation to sex. Being that i’m fairly new to this, is this all that men are seeking? While i’m no prude, I do have a lot of self-worth. I’m a lady and expect to be treated with respect. I have no desire to talk sex with a stranger at a keyboard and I definitely don’t have any desire to have sex with a stranger. If I met someone worthwhile, a relationship at that level will come. These men are total turn offs, to say the least. Is this the typical expectation on these sites and am I just wasting my time? Or is it just a matter of weeding out all of the horny jerks until I find a gentleman? Any feedback on this would be appreaciated. I’m getting frustrated.
Me and my boyfriend of 2 years just broke up Friday. We’ve always been really happy (we’ve argued over dumb pointless things of course but we’ve never gotten in a fight and broken up) So he broke up with me in texting Friday..really randomly. Thursday we were just talking about our 2 year and everything was so normal. He was giving me hints to what he was got me..(being sent to him in the mail he just ordered it this week) and everything was so happy. we we’re taking pictures and went out and hung out. Friday i was really sick so we didnt see each other. It was in texting which i said if we were going to have a serious conversation that could change our relationship (i got the hint that he was going to do this by the way he was texting me all of a sudden) that it should be in person or at least on the phone. He said he wanted to in person but i was sick and didn’t go to school. What theres no after school all of a sudden? He waited to do this till 9 oclock.I offered that we talk saturday morning/afternoon but he refused. And he refused to talk on the phone and ignored my calls after i called a couple times. Then he said if he didn’t do this now in texting, that he’d never explain to me why he was breaking up with me and our relationship would just end without me knowing why or anything. Which is really unfair. So i said fine. And he broke up with me and said hes not happy with the relationship anymore..we have been fighting lately but because hes starting a new job..my grandfather just died..my whole familys stressed out and trying to handle things. Things were finally getting in control and settling down and he randomly does this. Why would we be so normal less than 24 hrs before and then this? He ordered me a gift in the same week and then this? We talked in person today but i didn’t get many answers and im still left confused..well not really. I’m thinking its another girl that he likes. But i have no proof only lots of signs showing this. I love him with all my heart..we’ve been through a lot together. And today we hugged and kissed for the last time and said i love you and he said he wants to be really good friends with me and he just wants to be single for a while. I handled it pretty well during the break up. I told him i want him to be happy..i really do. Just things are still really hard for me to get used to. I ended up breaking down at work and i can’t concentrate on anything and he keeps confusing me. He puts things like how sad and ashamed he is as his mood on myspace and then puts in those bulletin questionnaires "if someone asked you out would you say yes" and he said "if the right person asked" and "if someone liked you right now would you like them to tell you" "if the right person told me". And theres a lot of other signs that aren’t just over the computer that i feel this. He says he loves me..he still wants me to wear the ring he gave me..i love him so much and i hate to just throw this away ..but i think we’re both confused..or he’s just being a jerk and telling me what i want to here so he can act like he can move on and be happy and i won’t bug him..we have classes together and he still wants to be bestfriends and everything. But yet he said he deleted everything from myspace but he said he still wants to hang out…i’m so confused..and i really just wish i had someone to talk to. I’ve talked to my friends but they just want to get me a new boyfriend, and i’ve already been asked out twice and i’ve only been single for a weekend! I don’t want anyone else though, i love him..is it possible to love again? I feel like i’m going to feel like this forever. And guys do you think its another girl? The sudden-ness of it and signs..or is he confused?
Holy crap i didn’t realize it was so long! Sorry!
I am a man and am back on the market again after a tough breakup. I have never used online dating services before but I am thinking about it now because I am in a new area and don’t know many people. Also, I have had enough of the bars and clubs. Would you recommend it? I am a decent guy and would like to meet a serious women for a relationship. What is your experience with online dating?
Since I will soon be single due to a long defuncted relationship also due to my own fault, should stay away from single dating sites. I know about the possibility of rebounding. I just don’t like the notion of being alone. Need some advice?
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I heard that people that go on Online Dating websites such as Match.com or Yahoo Personals are liars. I had a former classmate of mine who is a liar and she goes on both Yahoo Personals and Match.com. She has a boyfriend now but I don’t know why she still goes on those sites still. Usually people who go on that site and found a mate already have delete their profile. And she should have delete her profile if she has a boyfriend now but she still goes on those sites. She told me before that she met her boyfriend at a party of her friends… Is that really true that people who are in a relationship right now are going to end up just because of those sites which are fraud. I hope so for her who is a big fat liar. I hope that she gets busted one of these days.
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