Ok so technically we’re not dating. But I have strong feelings for her and I know she has the same for me, because she told me. I guess we’re not in a relationship yet, but we like each other very much. We’ve hugged passionately but she is too shy to go further, and so am I.

I’ve been raised in a family that imposed the idea that dating affects grades, therefore your future, therefore your life. But I don’t believe that is entirely true. I think about her a lot, yes, but I know that education is the priority, and girlfriends are a privilege.

I am a grade 10 straight A student, and she is one too (except gym). We are in all challenge classes (or AP, whatever you call them) and she is very responsible about her education. I think her coming into my life will be more of a motivation for me to do well than a liability.

So, if you have any experience with this, please give me some thoughtful advice. Also, if you have any advices on how I can introduce this topic to my parents, that will be very helpful.

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I have been seeing this guy since about January 1st.. we met on yahoo personals… anyways.. we have decided to date, " I didn’t know there was a difference between dating/seeing, apparently if you are seeing someone, they are able to see other people? idunno, what he said" We have agreed to stay excusive, which means no other partners.. I prefer that, and I have voiced my opinion about the issue.. Anyways.. I know that he has an ad on every personals site there is/some with his d**k picture, other pictures of himself.. all you have to do is type in the area he lives in, even without subscribing, and his name/pic pops up.. he said he did it to reach a larger group of people, because not everyone uses 1 site… I really wish he would delete every single one of them while we are dating, is this wrong of me? should I just trust what he is saying is true? I don’t want to make him mad, afterall I went to these sites (without subscribing) and looked up his name/area. thanks for any help!
I took my (1) ad off of yahoo right after we started seeing eachother.
I have so many questions… like about where the relationship is going, but don’t want to scare him away, we haven’t been together long, and it has been going great..
I’m in college, and he works from home/travels a bit for his job.. we see eachother on the weekends/during the week some…. I want to trust him so much, but dont want to end up with a broken heart, like what happened in a previous relationship… Thanks to everyone who gives advice!

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I’m so sick of mixed signals if that’s even what it is. I need some opinions on this.
My bf and I broke up about a month ago, shortly after he learned he’d be getting punished for an accident that happened in the barracks. This drunk friend of his fell 3 stories onto his head..just so happened to be my bf’s duty day so they’re trying to pin it on him. So dumb. He broke up with me saying that He needed a break..he needed to think about stuff; he didnt know if he wanted to be in a relationship right now and that he didnt want to hurt me.
He was very fair about it but a week later he tells me that he just doesnt care anymore. I know this kid like he back of my hand. His sister talked to him and told me that i should just know that he cares its just a big situation he’s dealing with that is making life miserable for him. Nothing was going wrong in the relationship that I saw for him to say that he just didnt care anymore. He’d said he still wants to be friends but doesnt want me to wait around.
The last time I talked to him was about 2 weeks ago or so and he was asking for the jewelery he’d given me back…how rude! He gave me a necklace for my birthday and a promise ring(that i didnt ask for) at christmas. I semi freaked out the 2nd night in a row he asked for the gifts back and told him he was being rude. Thats the last contact we’ve had. I did manage to get the reason why he wanted the jewelry back. he said he wanted it because he paid for it….and when i told him im keeping my gifts he asked me why i wanted them when they symbolize a relationship that didnt work….
ummm? It was working..until he got all stressed out. What is the deal? I understand he’s probably trying to protect my feelings by asking for a break but why is he asking for gifts back? He seems like its all over but he only asked for a break. Mixed signals..ugh.
Here’s some more interesting clues.. he is stationed in AZ..I’m still at school in MN. We’ve already cleared up if he cheated and he didnt. BUTTTT he did not tell anybody that we had broke up..i actually broke the news to his best friends wife and I thought she already knew. His best friend didnt know. He hasnt been on facebook or myspace anything like that to change anything which usually he’s online and up to date(i know its stupid but its still an interesting clue ya know) So bascially nobody that I know of besides his best friend and wife know that we had broken up.
His friends wife has been texting me a little but she says he doesnt talk about the break up and he doesnt talk about the punishment. he just says he’s in trouble.
Whats with all the mystery? His friends wife tried asking her husband about it and all he said is "he’s single" the two guys dont know that us girls talk so why are they hiding stuff from us?

Any opinions!? They’re really appreciated.. but dont give me that mean nasty answers. I want honest opinions. I’m going through a hard time so please try to give me some peace of mind
ok when I said "mixed signals" please remember I’m STRESSED OUT! and I’m confused and constantly thinking so oops maybe I used the wrong word…mixed signals might not be it. so please dont be rude!

some days are better than others. like right now for instance, not a good day.
Was with my ex for a total of 7 yrs…engaged the last year of it. After on again off again (mistakes he made on his end= betrayal) He came back full throttle to commit on a serious level- so much so that he would drive 365 miles to visit me for 5 months straight just to spend 2 days with me in his quest to win me back. He eventually apologized to my Mother & Father for his unfounded, immature behavior in how he had treated their daughter (me). He reasoned with them and explained he wanted to make me his wife.
While we went to therapy- and i founded in my heart to forgive him, we tried to move on from his mistakes…in the past and all throughout the relationship. His goal was to put everything on the table in hopes that he could turn over a new slate and start fresh.
After almost 11 months of this—positive behavior, he proposed to me and I lovingly and purely accepted. I waited almost 6 years for this…indeed it did happen.
I agreed to move to another country (at the time he was working there also a citizen) and planned to immigrate while we planned a wedding.
This is where is gets… really really sad. When I moved up there, everything was going well for the first 3 months- However, I did noticed he seemed on another page when it came to wedding plans (just seemed disinterested) and then he never wanted to discuss plans about our future (tangible plans-like baby, budget, house, etc.) I was always the one to initiate discussion. When it came to his only request which involved merging "legally" he mentioned a pre-nup… I should have known this was a red flag! As time moved closer to planning our wedding, I asked him countless times if he could help fill out the "couples questionnaire" for the wedding officiant… i asked so many times it ended up being a battle. then came wedding invites…his alternative to saving money on the wedding was to e-mail invites to 200 guests -the only suggestion he even gave.
At this point-I noticed he seem disinterested and it really started to depress me. Then out he came with- we should cancel the wedding. He said were not getting along…and this is suppose to be the happiest part. (mind you-I have a ring on my finger, a venue booked, a dress bought, etc) he tells me this 8 months into the engagement. Then like clockwork-he seemed relieved and when I threatened to leave because of this… he cried and begged me not too. I listened to him and wanted so badly to believe his intentions were pure and he really wanted to work on "compromising." I stayed and waited and waited. And as I waited he expected me to bounce back back as quickly as him- (not so much) In fact, I started to resent him. I felt as if he was making excuses- then I started to pull away and then he did. Then I would try to move closer-then he would pull away.
Eventually- He called me to tell me he was sleeping over a friends house and was planning on drinking. I advised him to be safe and not to drive. Funny thing is- next morning he came home and looked…well like his conscience was eating at him. The moment I felt this(i have felt this before) I asked him if he did something that I need to know. He looked me dead in the eye and proceed to say NO then kiss me. Afterward hopped in the shower and seem "in another world." That very same day we were suppose to drive to the border and finalize my immigration papers. Before we left- he told me that he was with another girl the night before. Here I am- a state of complete numbness while I am hearing this. It was like deja vu all over again,
After a 6 hour walk by myself- I told him I was leaving him and proceeded to say "Thanks this just confirmed everything"
As I left a week later- I left my hopes, my dreams, and everything I wanted to build for the last 7 years. He took all of that away from me.
A year way from him- he still contacted me told me he missed my friendship.
Year 2 was actually harder-the shock value wore off and reality set in. I actually ended up missing him more than ever. We spoke briefly during this time and I once again fell into the ridiculous trap of getting my heart broken all over again- as he told me that his work will send him to the Czech Republic- my heart cringed and again-despair came over me. I politely asked him to end communication with me as it effected me way too much-as I still had love for him.
He just recently contacted me in September- wishing me well.
I can’t understand this person-? Even when I am not with him- I still am deeply enveloped.
I miss what we had- I miss the fun- the adventure- our commonalities. I had never in my life time been in love with someone as much as i was with him.
Now we are just strangers- Why does this pain heart so bad……. Why?
And is he thinking of me the same as i think of him?

Background history: He’s 17, I’m 16. In the same high school class, but we have not been actually "dating," as in seeing each other outside of school. He’s not allowed him to date, & we were going to wait a little while till he could, but we started having something more than just friendship. This is my & his first time in a relationship with someone else. He’s probably one of the best friends I’ve ever had, & I found a potential partner in him. He’s shy but opens up quickly has a great sense of humor, is a bit goofy, and possesses a great amount of intelligence (he reads a lot, great with computers and cars, & he’s…just amazing). We hit it off pretty well. He’s witty, cute, used to call me babe – there were so many positive qualities that they outnumbered and blocked out the negative traits, if there were any. But a month ago he started feeling a bit pessimistic about us and our relationship. He used to say thing that he was happy, yet at the same time down and out…I told him to just be happy and don’t be discouraged. &..well… here’s what happened:
3 weeks ago, I was texting him one night, & then all of sudden he said, "well, this is awkward." I asked him why it was awkward, but then I said, "what, are we over now? just get to the point." Then he got upset, and was all, "don’t say it like that," and "ouch, that stung a bit," etc. I think I may have upset him, but… I don’t know…
He explained & said, "we don’t talk as much and we have nothing in common." (absolutely NOT true) "it’s probably my fault, but still true." I didn’t know what to say… I said that we had plenty in common and didn’t know where he was getting this from. He said, "I don’t know, I hate hurting you like this, but…this just isn’t happening for me I guess. & how many times has this happened?" when he asked that, he meant some of the fights we’ve had. i guess he gets down and pessimistic, & just…it ends up in either a fight or he says something to me that he ends up regretting. like once, he changed the school he was going to go to senior year, & he didn’t even tell me. i asked if he even cared to let me know things anymore (i wasn’t mad that he was going to another school) & if he still cared about me in general. he said, "fine, no to both." & two weeks later? he bounced right back & apologized. he was mad at himself for saying something like that to me, & i took it back. this stuff has happened more than once.
i texted him after he "broke up" with me to see if i could…try again. he told me, "give it up, (my name), it’s not gonna happen." i asked if it was another girl – he said no (not that he could get another girl if he tried). i asked if it was his parents – he said no. he told me to "let it go." i kept asking him why he suddenly felt this way, & he said really stupid, half-*** things like "feelings change, it’s a part of life." i told him he was gonna regret it like he always has when this happens, & all he said was, "fair enough." he shut his phone off… then i texted him saying that i hoped he was happy that i was gone and out of his hair.
that was just so unlike him…& it all just blew over… it’s been maybe 2 weeks since that last thing happened, & i’m not over him. the next day at school, i caught him sneaking glances at me several times, & friends even noticed it. they couldn’t believe that he did that, & they tell me to wait it out… I know the both of us would be happier if we could actually have something real – and date. i KNOW for sure we would be much happier, because whenever i would bring something like that up to him, he was always happy.
i’m sorry for the text wall… if anyone wants to email me about this, do so. thanks for your patience for reading…

Some people say that online relationship statuses are no big deal, while others agree that they are (or should be) accurate indicators. I am 50/50 on this and need help…

My current bf and I have been in love with each other for the past year & a half but due to circumstance, couldn’t really date at the time (we live really far and didn’t want to complicate things). But we still talked EVERY day, told each other we loved each other, made plans to see each other, sent each other gifts, didn’t see other people, etc etc.

He came to visit me last month & we had an AMAZING time together, better than expected, and decided we could definitely make it work as a couple, since we were basically "acting" like one anyway (I mean, the feelings are there!) We mutually agreed to be EXCLUSIVE to each other (like we were anyway) and use the term "bf" & "gf" w/ each other.

I’m not "insecure" about our relationship BUT it IS long distance (I mean, really long… I’m in Miami, he’s in the UK..) so it’s harder. His myspace/facebook status still says "single" and he uses those sites EVERY DAY- in fact, that’s how we met!

There are also no pics of us together & he actually told me to "please not tag him in any photos" b/c it’d be weird if his mom found out through that, that we were together, since she has facebook. (He’s 26.) Riiight.

There are also a few flirty comments from a girl on his myspace that are recent which he’s replied to (though he hasn’t said much.. who knows how else they could be communicating..?)

I asked him to change it about 3-ish weeks ago. He said it just slipped his mind, but he’d do it the nect time he got on. He’s been on since & still hasn’t changed it, although there are other updates on his page. So what the hell.

I didn’t think I had much to worry about since while he was here, he introduced me to his friends & his brother. Plus he talks about getting married-seriously- and even moving here to be with me ALL the time. We’ve been in contact for so long & he spent so much $$ to come see me, we didn’t even have sex while he was here! So IF he’s lying, why? He’s not getting anything out of it… Should I bring it up again? & how?

P.S.- if myspace is "no big deal" then what IS the big deal? Why doesn’t he just change it instead of hiding it? Thanks!

I have been dating the same boy for one year and three months,
I am only 14 right now and it drives me crazy how some people dont take our relationship seriously when I have known adults to get married when they knew each other for less then a year?

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Alright. Me and my ex had a great little romance for two weeks last summer. His name was Cameron. Were also both in high school. Anyway, what happened was he was trying to kiss me for the first time and I wasnt feeling it. I said "Maybe when it feels right" and then He left walking away……embarrased. He ignored me. And when I tried to get him back he also ignored me. Turns out, he found another girl. Another girl who WOULD kiss him. Anyway, he still had feelings for me because a month later he called my brother freaking out. Wondering if I was dating this guy……Billy Mahoney. Now, my ex knew that I had a big crush on him and when I put on my Facebook that I was in a relationship I guess he saw that and ASSUMED that I was dating Billy Mahoney. Anyway, I messaged my ex and said "why do you care who Im dating" and He said "I dont my friends wanted to know" and in a nutshell I said "bullshit, youre a short and ugly and an asshole" then he said in a nutshell "wow. Ive hit puberty and youre the one whos ugly etc etc etc" and it was just a nasty ugly stupid fight. And in the end, my ex said "and my friends just wanted to know so they could make fun of billy for dating YOU" So, we were in a huge fight for about 3 months. Talking shit about each other in school. Glaring at one and other. All of that silly stuff. But, then something happend. We just stopped being angry with each other. I knew for a fact he still cared about me. He would alway look at me from the corner of his eyes in hallways and I knew he still cared. Then we started being more friendly. And he started riding his bike near my house and staring at me and laughing at my dumb jokes. He started paying attention to me. Well, flashfoward……LAST WEEK. So, now we had been talking more and more and he made it completely obviousis he was into me. And he I told him how his ex gf was in love with him and he said something like "well too bad for her" and I messaged him on Facebook telling him to not to make fun of his ex gf since she was still in love with him and he said "haha ok but what about u huh…lets get together huh" and I said "haha oh yeah" and he said "no seriously lets get togher" and I said "well we shoud do something about this" and he said "U should come over" But I wasnt allowed. So, he came over my house the next day and we made out and had a good time and he ALSO ADMITTED TO LYING ABOUT THE WHOLE BILLY MAHONEY THING. It was a great reuniting. For about a week it was great. We madeout all the time and there was a lot of chemistry between us. But then, the day before spring break….I did something wrong. I started flirting with Billy Mahoney. I flirted with him the WHOLE BUS RIDE. I payed no attention to Cameron. It was truly an accident. Well, I messged Cameron and I told him I was grounded and couldnt hang out and he IGNORED ME. I couldnt belive it. Then the next day I said "Do you not want to hang out today because I totally could" and he said "Im not home and my phone was dead so chill Im not mad and my parents are home" and I said "ohhhh I see" and he said "ya" and tht was pretty much the end of that little conversation. I messaged him again a day later asking if he wanted to come over. NO REPLY. So, now its been two days and I havent tried to talking to him. I just dont know what to do. The only reason I can think of this sudden period of ignoring me is because I flirted with Billy on the bus. I also know for a fact that Cameron admires Billy. I can just tell. But guys please help me….WHAT SHOULD I DO? AND WHY DO YOU THINK HE IS IGNORING ME?

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Ok to make a long story short, I signed up on a dating site a few months ago. Not because I am ugly or desperate, etc. It’s because I live in a small town & it is very hard to meet new people. Anyway, I have been talking online (and now have phone number) to a guy for about a week now. He only lives a couple hrs away. We’re hoping to meet up in a week or two to see the chemistry (how we interact, if we’re attracted etc). I will meet in public place & bring my brother along.

Now heres the question: If we hit it off in person too, how much should we hang out before we start a relationship? I just need opinions on this, I don’t know when is too soon. I dont want to scare him off. Guys what do you think of this? If I fall for him completely i just dont want him to get away lol. Should I just let him take the lead? Im just trying to be prepared for this & figure it out..Any insight/tips on this is appreciated!

I’m just curious to know for some of you that come to this section frequently to ‘help’ others because i (at least i think) think that’s why I’m here.

Question:
Do you think your attached to viewing, answering, asking on answers.yahoo "Singles & Dating" because your frustrated that you can’t be with or are not with someone that has the same maturity and understanding of what -you believe- makes a healthy relationship?

Being honest with myself, i think i can agree to that statement but i’m just curious to know if there are any others out there that feel that way.

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