Another poster brought up an interesting point, he said this:

"Since they’re equal to men you don’t need to compliment their looks, buy them flowers, open their doors, pay for dates, remember special dates, or carry their heavy stuff. Men don’t care about any of that.

Plus, since they’re independent, they don’t want your “time & attention” during baseball, football, or basketball season. So, you can watch your games whether she’s around or not and save your cash."

If feminist were truely about equality… the statements above would be true. This just shows how strong biology is… Even when a woman is a feminist.. she still needs some of that "special treatment" to feel good or cared for.

I really liked this girl.. Way more than I should have. I went over the top when she went out on a "singles" adventure that she had paid for before knowing me. She would show me affection, kiss in public even though she was averse to it, got me a v-day card and she is the only girl I ever met that didn’t like V-day. Well, I called her 3 times that night asking why she wouldn’t return my calls. Turns out, after she left that event (She could have called me then) her battery died when she got back to her friend’s place for the night. I didn’t hear from her until the morning and she freaked that I called so much and texted her a few times. That’s pretty much that. I had no idea where she really stood. I thought she wasn’t wanting to be serious, but I just got caught up in the bs, now she said she isn’t into me "That way" (Yeah, the famous first line of the friend zone) although we had great sexual attraction at first. I messed up, and I am not sure how to salvage it, but here is my plan.. Do you think this will work:

Told her in email, ok, maybe we can be friends.. (Didn’t commit) I could use more female friends.. After all, you can meet women easier if you are already surrounded by them..
Decided to meet again. Was going to redo everything.. Instead of preconceived notions we had through online dating service matchup, was going to project all my masculinity, body language, disinterest, flirty teasing, and tell her straight up, well, I am not really interested in being friends. I thought we had something there, and that we had a lack of understanding recently brought me to an epiphany. I can’t be friends. I don’t mind hanging with you, and I would love to do stuff together occasionally, but I can’t commit to a friendship because of the sexual attraction that would always be there. I wouldn’t want the friendship to eventually end in a disaster because of some untimely advance, so I am not having it. Sorry, we can either move on, or we can accept that. What’s the community opinion? Once in that zone, it’s no return, but staving it off before it becomes ingrained in the woman’s head is best. I tell you this, I am never going to be that affected by her again, so it will be easier for me anyway.

I’ve recently found out that people here on YA, esp "singles&dating" are getting so fucking ridiculous! they make enemies, cursing and even back-stabbing each other. What The bloddy hell is this place? aren’t we supposed to ask about our relationship life? I’ve been posting questions about one special girl and i’ve been labelled as a creepy stalker? WTF! If it shouldn’t be about the girl i like, what’s more should i’ve been asking?

Uhmm.. well, so this site f ucks us all, doesn’t it? so let’s fucck it up!
And yeah, how many of you are using fake picture? are guys pretending to be girls or the otherway round? come on people!
so, Mike, i am in bad mood today. should i start asking sick questions? OMG! that’s easy!

I feel like there isn’t anyone out there for me. I know I’m only thirteen, and I have a while to go before I should start dating "for real".. But I’d just like to know. Believing in soul mates kind of gives me hope, you know?? When I look at my parents.. They don’t seam to me like anything NEAR perfect matches. They bicker a lot.. About pretty much everything. They act like babies. I don’t know.. So what’s you take on it? Is there a person out there for evreyone?

Well i’m about to turn 24 and I’m seriously wondering if i’m just not attractive enough to get a girlfriend. Heck, I’ve never even kissed a girl!

My experiences with women in real life has been similar to my experience with online dating. I decided to try eHarmony.com. For those that aren’t aware, the eHarmony system matches people based on personality tests. The system will periodically send you new "matches" and you can either "close" the match or attempt to communicate. Most girls opted to "close" communication with me after the system matches us. They "closed" me without any contact between us! They just saw my profile & pictures and decided they didn’t like me.

A small number of girls did initiate communication with me. Each of these girls fell into one of these two categories: a) cute, but probbaly found somebody else they preferred and eventually stopped talking to me b) Very overweight and I didnt respond.
I’d really like to know whether or not i’m too ugly to get a girlfriend. I’ve grown acustomed to being by myself and i’d like to know if it’ll be possible for me to get a girlfriend. If it isnt, then i can just forget about it… If you’d like to see my pictures, my SN on yahoo messenger is magnificent_bumba

yahoo SN = magnificent_bumba

Well i’m about to turn 24 and I’m seriously wondering if i’m just not attractive enough to get a girlfriend. Heck, I’ve never even kissed a girl!

My experiences with women in real life has been similar to my experience with online dating. I decided to try eHarmony.com. For those that aren’t aware, the eHarmony system matches people based on personality tests. The system will periodically send you new "matches" and you can either "close" the match or attempt to communicate. Most girls opted to "close" communication with me after the system matches us. They "closed" me without any contact between us! They just saw my profile & pictures and decided they didn’t like me.

A small number of girls did initiate communication with me. Each of these girls probbaly found somebody else they preferred and eventually stopped talking to me.
I’d really like to know whether or not i’m too ugly to get a girlfriend. I’ve grown acustomed to being by myself and i’d like to know if it’ll be possible for me to get a girlfriend. If it isnt, then i can just forget about it… If you’d like to see my pictures, my SN on yahoo messenger is magnificent_bumba

yahoo SN = magnificent_bumba

So I like this guy and he liked me too, it was really obvious and things, and were four years but that is really nothing, Im still in school and after i told him this he kind of backed off, but still showed interest. My family told me he probably still liked me but just was taken back by age difference, and that made sense. Anyway my sister wanted to go where he worked and was like okay sure. And when he got there he ignored me, and at one point i opened my mouth to say Salaam and he looked away. He looked real pissed. And so we just bought stuff there and left. Almost his whole family works there, and i noticed his cousins there used to like run up to him when we walked in, but this time, they all gave me weird looks..and its dumb because i have no idea what i did. I know my facebook got messed up one time. so he couldn’t see my wall, and just so happened it was my birthday that day, and deleted that setting right away, because it was an accident. And i said hi to him, when he was on idle, and he didn’t reply for like 30 min, and so i said "k your probably busy." Then he went online, and i thought he was gonna reply but then it went on idle again. And it really hurt, i cried alot even though it was my birthday. It felt like someone stabbed me. I mean i didn’t scare him off, i wasn’t constantly talking to him, I wasn’t like oh LETS GET MARRIED AND HAVE 5 KIDS. nahh, I’m not a creep. I was just friendly and he dissed me. I also noticed the girls he hangs out are really "interesting" like party girls. And I’m pretty sure he’s been with alot of girls. So have his dumb azz buddies. It just hurts cause I see it all the time, muslim guys dating "interesting" party girls. And if i do that with guys, they call me a whore. I wish I had never met him. I wish I never fell for it. And it’s thanks to him, my parents officially hate Arab guys (my family is berber)

And I keep having weird dreams with him in it and God is talking. I wish i didn’t have these dreams. I want him gone. We could’ve just been friends but he had to be an a$$hole.
@ AbdulMalik, insensative much, go somewhere else, NO ONE LOVES YOU. plus I know it’s god because You see Allah written in Arabic in the sky, and you can tell it’s Allah because you it’s a peaceful feeling. and satan can’t disguise himself as God.

I recently learned that my (38 year old) boyfriend of 11 months (I’m 31), while he has made his online account inactive, he still occasionally clicks on the automatic emails that he receives and views the profiles of his "matches". He says he is not "looking", but he just looks at matches because he is curious. Am I insane, or is that not the definition of looking ? He said he will stop. I think this is completely inappropriate behavior, and I don’t know what to do.
Re. active / inactive account – it’s a match account. His profile is turned off, so it’s not sent to others, and it is not searchable. He has not renewed the account. Therefore, it is inactive. However, with such an account, they still send you your weekly matches to your email account, unless you go on there and specifically set it not to – it’s really tricky to figure out how to set it that way. I know, because I did it with my own. Match.com makes it difficult on purpose, hoping to get your business back.
And, no, I was not spying on him or reading his emails. I asked him and he said he does still check the profiles of his matches that are sent to him.

So I believe that when you are born, God has already designated a soul mate for you. So what happens when your designated "soul mate" dies before you meet them or even if you die before meeting them? Does God not designate a soulmate for those that will die before marriage?

I haven’t had much luck W’ Yahoo & am biased against E Harmony so now I thought I’d try a crack @ plenty of fish. Are all these sites basically the same or are there any differences? Any REAL LIFE success stories. I work in a company with mostly married people & most of my friends are married so I really have no outlet to meet other men. Esp since churches are a JOKE & I don’t believe in a "God" anyway!
Please don’t answer if you’re under 18: esp since ppl under 18 aren’t ALLOWED to use these services.
I don’t need to hear "They are a joke" & if you THINK so I suggest you name 5 decent places in Houston,TX a WHITE 25 y.o woman can meet a DECENT man with no kids!

Check these sites out, if not familiar on what I am talking about!

http://www.irfi.org/articles/articles_51_100/halal_dating.htm

http://syl.com/articles/datingislamictraditions.html

Is this taboo, or unorthodox to Islam?

I am Muslim; I agree that there should be a chaperon also with us if me and this other Muslim woman are to meet up – to see if we are compatible. This is to ensure that I have a good woman to be a mother and a permanent wife, in starting a family. I believe that knowing the woman beforehand will give an assurance to her parents (I have no parents), that there wouldn’t be a divorce in the future.

I feel that if "we" (both this woman whom I feel is my soul mate) as mature adults [she is 24; I am 29] have an agreement…to her parents, to meet her parents, in which to council us…this "halal dating" should be on terms of not violating anything that would be haraam, I’m a correct? I’ll elaborate below…

What I mean, is that I like this halal dating concept and, if only it is on innocent terms; with an agreement to her parents. It should be acceptable? Her parents don’t know of halal dating, and before I request to date their daughter (even though she is an adult – but its tradition); before giving a dowry; I would accept either the father or mother to attend us while we are meeting in public to assure them that we are not to do any funky intimate business behind their back! I’ll continue to have a chaperoned date if it needs to be. I really like this woman, and would hate to dishonor her parents.

To my Muslim brothers and sisters…please give me your opinions!

I enter craigslist. I go to musicians and click on their ad. Then when I want to answer their ad, I click on the "pers . . . . . " to send a reply. It defaults(if you will) to the Yahoo send, but the "to" box never populates so that I can send the message, because there’s no address to send it to—the "to" box just doesn’t fill in like it used to.

I am trying to find out how popular "online dating" is in India and what are the most frequently visited sites.

every time i try to start a match making game on halo 3 it always says "one or more players do not have the required maps to play in this play list". do i need to download some maps? if so what maps?