I am 34, divorced with a child. I got divorced due to domestic violence. I have been single ever since, and that was 10 years ago now (apart from 1 guy, more below). I just never found anyone who I liked enough to introduce to my son, and I would never have a sex-only thing with anyone. I’ve been busy with my son all these years but he is now a teenager. I’d dearly love to find someone but everyone in my circle, and who I meet, is taken already. Younger guys think I’m too old. Can’t win!

I did date one guy in 2008 but he turned out to be married and when I think about it, it still hurts. He used the fact I have a son and could not sleep overnights with him, to lead his double life.

Now, my cousin is my best friend. She’s 29 and single. She still lives at home and her dad pays for her car, her phone, her nights out, and her vacations. She dates a lot of guys, and has had fun with all of them.

However – now all her friends are getting married, she has become unbearable. She’s joined a bunch of "find a husband" websites, and literally bombards me with texts day and night about "who" she should date next, and "why" a certain guy hasn’t replied to her text straight away, etc.

I happily listen, even though I have enough issues of my own, but the extent to which she is now obsessed with finding a husband is ridiculous. If I tell her not to clog up my work email with all her messages, she’ll start clogging up my Yahoo and my phone. She talks day and night about whichever man she’s talking to online. I recently said "Hey, you know I still think about *name of married guy* sometimes and it hurts so much" and she replied "LOL! Get over it!"

She’s also starting to cut off members of our family who are getting married; she has another cousin who went straight from being a mistress to finding the guy of her dreams, and my cousin started screaming to me "where is her karma? Why doesn’t God punish her for being with a married guy knowingly? I’m boycotting her wedding".

I think she is probably depressed, but how do I handle all this when I am still devastated about what the guy I was seeing did to me? (turned out to be married) Believe me, I spend HOURS talking to and advising her, before anyone tells me I am selfish.

Another thing is she always tells new guys she meets that she "had a bad marriage" – she’s never even BEEN married! It’s something she invents to get sympathy. This is the kind of thing she pulls. I have every sympathy for her, even though she does not reciprocate, but I am losing patience.

I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I am a subscribed/paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:
1. Yahoo.com
2. Match.com
3. True.com
4. Eharmony.com
5. Chemistry.com
6. FriendFinder.com
7. Passion.com
8. BigChurch.com
9. MySpace.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.

After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:
1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

A. What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man
seeks Woman"? ? ?

B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of
written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?

About Internet/Online ‘Dating’ Websites for Platonic Friendship or Amore/Romance: Communication/meeting
Internet/Online ‘Dating’ Websites for Friendship or Amore/Romance

I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I am a both a member here at PlentyOfFish.com and a subscribed/paid membership on other on-line ‘dating’ websites, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:

1. Yahoo.com 2. Match.com 3. True.com 4. Eharmony.com 5. Chemistry.com 6. FriendFinder.com 7. Passion.com 8. BigChurch.com 9. MySpace.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:

1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

What’s the deal with this prejudice/discrimination from these peer-aged women with so-called ‘matched’ profiles ads???

I am 34, divorced with a child. I got divorced due to domestic violence. I have been single ever since, and that was 10 years ago now (apart from 1 guy, more below). I just never found anyone who I liked enough to introduce to my son, and I would never have a sex-only thing with anyone. I’ve been busy with my son all these years but he is now a teenager. I’d dearly love to find someone but everyone in my circle, and who I meet, is taken already. Younger guys think I’m too old. Can’t win!

I did date one guy in 2008 but he turned out to be married and when I think about it, it still hurts. He used the fact I have a son and could not sleep overnights with him, to lead his double life.

Now, my cousin is my best friend. She’s 29 and single. She still lives at home and her dad pays for her car, her phone, her nights out, and her vacations. She dates a lot of guys, and has had fun with all of them.

However – now all her friends are getting married, she has become unbearable. She’s joined a bunch of "find a husband" websites, and literally bombards me with texts day and night about "who" she should date next, and "why" a certain guy hasn’t replied to her text straight away, etc.

I happily listen, even though I have enough issues of my own, but the extent to which she is now obsessed with finding a husband is ridiculous. If I tell her not to clog up my work email with all her messages, she’ll start clogging up my Yahoo and my phone. She talks day and night about whichever man she’s talking to online. I recently said "Hey, you know I still think about *name of married guy* sometimes and it hurts so much" and she replied "LOL! Get over it!"

She’s also starting to cut off members of our family who are getting married; she has another cousin who went straight from being a mistress to finding the guy of her dreams, and my cousin started screaming to me "where is her karma? Why doesn’t God punish her for being with a married guy knowingly? I’m boycotting her wedding".

I think she is probably depressed, but how do I handle all this when I am still devastated about what the guy I was seeing did to me? (turned out to be married) Believe me, I spend HOURS talking to and advising her, before anyone tells me I am selfish.

Another thing is she always tells new guys she meets that she "had a bad marriage" – she’s never even BEEN married! It’s something she invents to get sympathy. This is the kind of thing she pulls.

I went on a date with a guy I met online. He looked so much better than his picture so I liked him. He said that he hasnt had much luck in the webiste. I asked him out again on email but he said he didnt didnt feel the chemistry. I was fine with that because I didnt feel romantic chemistry either. However, I felt that we really connected as friends but he never communicated to me since then. Now, just recently, he changed his picture on his profile and he looks like a geek there. As a friend concern about him finding someone, I want to send him an email to ask him to change his profile pic. How do I say this politely and maybe start a friendship from there?

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Met this girl through an online dating site, we met for drinks and hit it off. She is gorgeous, smart, successful, and there was definitely chemistry between us. A week later, I took her out to dinner and we had a great time. Didn’t hear from her for a couple of days, called her and asked her if she wanted to get together again. She had plans. Waited five days, called her again (expected a no) but she said she wanted to go out again and we met for dinner. We had an amazing kiss at the end of dinner and I thought things went really well (this was Sunday). And she said she definitely wanted to get together again. Sent her a text when I got home telling her that I had fun. She didn’t respond. I sent her an email about this place I want to take her to this weekend. No response.

Whats going on here? If she isn’t interested, why the long kiss? Why three dates? Why talk about the next date?

Am I being too aggressive by calling/texting? I’m not calling everyday (more like once per 4 days) but I feel like I’m the only one making the effort.

I like her. I’m hoping things continue but I’m confused.
The question now is how best to handle this situation.

Should I tell her that I am getting mixed signals and ask her whats what?
Just not call her and wait for her call/text/email and if she doesn’t then oh well?
Just call her again and tell her about this cool place I want to take her and if she wants to get together this weekend?
Tell her that I am not feeling like she is interested and that I am moving on?

So what does the world think?

I’m a 33-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I am a subscribed/paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:
1. Yahoo.com
2. Match.com
3. True.com
4. Eharmony.com
5. Chemistry.com
6. FriendFinder.com
7. Passion.com
8. BigChurch.com
9. MySpace.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.

After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:
1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

A. What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man
seeks Woman"? ? ?

B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of
written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?

C. What is this: “Popularity Contest”, “Flauntiest Teasing”, “Flirtatious but Fickleness/Finickiest” of these
heterosexual peer-aged people; both men and women; with the Internet/Online Dating Website trend or
‘craze’/‘fad’? ? ?

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I’m a 33-year-old, heterosexual male who is single, and I have a paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, on the following sites just to: ‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ " but only experience flakeyness from Women :

1. Yahoo.com
2. Match.com
3. True.com
4. Eharmony.com
5. Chemistry.com
6. FriendFinder.com
7. Passion.com
8. BigChurch.com
9. Alt.com

10. MySpace.com
11. PlentyOfFish.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.

I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s)

A. What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man
seeks Woman"? ? ?

B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of
written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?

C. What is this: “Popularity Contest”, “Flauntiest Teasing”, “Flirtatious but Fickleness/Finickiest” of these
heterosexual peer-aged people; both men and women; with the Internet/Online Dating Website trend or
‘craze’/‘fad’? ? ?

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I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I am a subscribed/paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:
1. Yahoo.com
2. Match.com
3. True.com
4. Eharmony.com
5. Chemistry.com
6. FriendFinder.com
7. Passion.com
8. BigChurch.com
9. MySpace.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.

After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:
1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

A. What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man
seeks Woman"? ? ?

B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of
written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?

C. What is this: “Popularity Contest”, “Flauntiest Teasing”, “Flirtatious but Fickleness/Finickiest” of these
heterosexual peer-aged people; both men and women; with the Internet/Online Dating Website trend or
‘craze’/‘fad’? ? ?

I’ve been talking to a guy from an online dating site (I havn’t met him yet) He doesn’t know that I’ve read his facebook where it says he’s recently divorced. I’ve asked him in email if he was single, divorced, or out of a relationship and he responded that he was "single".. TECHNICALLY he is "single".. but when you talk to someone from a dating website it would be appropriate to say divorced, which mean "you are single, but were married before".. Single is not the same as divorced! Agree? Should I be upset he’s hiding these details?

I need your advice, please. This is a three-years relatioinship. I am in California, and he is in Arkansas. I love him very much, but he always says he likes me very much. He couldn’t say he loves me because he was hurt by his previous marriage. He sometimes told me that he doesn’t deserve me because I am never married, good looking, and young. He is eight years older than me.
Recently, he told me that he is at online dating and finds someone who can be with him when he is alone. I was shocked and sad about what he did, but he told me that he needs new friends who lives close to his residential area to have dinner sometimes or talk. He already met two girls and complaint about their outlooks with no chemistry. I thought he is just for fun. But, I just find he is at another dating site and find the girl who can bring chemistry and make spark to him. This is really make me upset because it’s really not what he told me. He looks for serious relationship, right?!
I still love him, but..
He is 41yr old, and I am 33yr old.
We call, email, and text many times a day. We just spent a romantic weekend at spa resort last week. He never told me that he is alone. When I asked him about online dating, he said that he just wants to meet more people.
He told me that I deserve to find someone who is better and younger than him. But, he doesn’t want to loss me as a friend.
When I see his description at online site, I feel so sad. I told to him about what I see at that site and my feel. He just kept silence and didn’t say anything. He told me that he is in depression, and didn’t want to talk. I am lost completely.
Gosh. I don’t want to loss him, but I am really sad when I see him flirt other girls.
I really need help……..
Shall I just forgive him because he is alone?

She has recently told me that this is just a love for a good friend but I usually don’t think of good guy and lady friends saying that they love each other. I would like to think that she still has feelings for me somewhere deep.
I unfortunately may have destroyed the friendship though. I sent her an american greetings card via the mail including a poem of what I thought of her, a day later called her up and asked her if I could go out on a "date" with her and if there was anything I could do to tell her that I was sorry. She said "no" to both, so in my panic like many do after a breakup I sent her an email asking her to reconsider the "date" idea. I one day later sent her an ecard telling her that I was sorry and that deep down inside I still wanted to be just friends and nothing more even if it appeared that I did want more.
Yes I know I was pushy, I don’t need to be reminded of that, but I think I may have destroyed the friendship and any possible chance of reuniting