I recently decided to put myself up on one of those dating sites and opened a profile. After a few days I started on it, I saw several other profiles that caught my attention. One guy sent me a message and we started chatting; we both liked each other through pics. After many nights of chats we decided to meet. We did, it was charming. A great guy! He texted me first so I got excited that he was pretty much letting me know he liked meeting me in person. The next few dates went out as planned. Firstm a nice dinner, the second date a nice dinner, drinks and a few kisses. The third date, dinner and more kisses and we ended up cuddling at his place watching a movie. No sex, or bj’s, but lots of touching until the sun came up (he was pretty excited and me too, but we talked about the sex and we both agreed that it was too soon). We felt very compatible. We would send texts to each other during the day or so and he told me that he felt a lot of chemistry with me…
After our third date, I knew he had to leave town to work on a personal project so I sort of let him "do his thing" for a while; no texts or e-mails, or just a quick hi (he’s not much of a phone talker). We had planned to meet right before his trip but he cancelled on me twice due to his inminent plans and how he had to "clear his head" before this big event. I understood….but after the two cancellations he stopped texting. Which is ok, I’m not the kind of "psycho" or crazy woman that would over analize a guy. I sent him a couple of casual texts until he replied. He said that he wanted to see me when he was back. That was it. He wasn’t as expressive as before, or sounded so interested in seeing me again; just plain and simple "thank you" . Right before, he was pretty into seeing me….now, to clarify something, the guy seems lazy (only likes to get out when absolutely necessary) but he was just a tad more interested at the beginning.
Right before he left, I noticed he erased his profile at the dating website…don’t really know what to think..but I came up with these four:
-Either he is really preocuppied by this project of his; cant think of anything else now but his job
-He’s just not that into me
-He wants to get rid of me
-He wants to wait-he’s analizing the relationship.
After reading that book of "not that into you" I got severely scared…he’s not that into me; but he kept replying to my e-mails ( i sent him one just to wish him luck), he replied a little late, but did and said "very sweet" …no texts anymore…and we sort of left it at "we will definitely see other again".
What should I do, guys? I REALY Like this guy. I’m an adult, don’t like to play games and I am a very stable woman in my early 30′s (he’s too).
Thanks for your advise and look forward to see what you all have to say. I think I’m starting to sound psycho…
Wow, you guys have been incredibly helpful and so kind. Honestly, I feel a little more at ease…I will give him the benefit of the doubt (haha like in the movie) but I really enjoyed reading all the comments and the last guy’s perspective!
Much love to you all and wish me luck 