Looking for a good value!

I’ve read around the internet a bit and you can find alot of horror stories about billing and "free trials" that turn out to just screw you.

It just seems spending /mo on *trying* to find love is rather steep. Especially if you spend a year and don’t find it!

The three I’m considering are:
Match.com
Chemistry.com
eHarmony.com

Open to suggestions and presonal experiences. Your chance to save a person from wandering downt he wrong path.

When meeting someone for the first time, how many dates does it take you to figure out if you really like them or not? Is the chemistry there or not there right away?

have discovered great chemistry on the phone with a potential mate. We communicate and enjoy hours of conversation on various topics, spiritually, emotionally we connect, even as far as future goals, we have similar beliefs…Our personalities gel quite nicely…the dilemma is…he has seen several photos of me in different environments, I asked and received more photos of him, as hard as I try I am not physically attracted, yet the connection in other areas are superb…what should I do? We have not met face to face since we engaged in communicating, for almost six weeks …..by the way I have asked this request on several occasions and timing hasn’t allowed on his part due to business committments, he travels alot and is an enterprenuer with varied interests, contacts and networks….my dilemma, continue until we meet face to face and see if there is chemistry or kick him to the curb now, and not waste any more time?

I know that "plenty of fish" is free but the people on there are ridiculous. What site, in your opinion, has the best representation of people out there. I am guessing eHarmony is probably too expensive for most people… so maybe Match, or Chemistry, or… who knows?

Ive checked out a few dating sites but have not payed yet and want to chose the best site before making any real move. I am looking for the best date site that give out the most matches, according to number of matches, accuracy of chemistry of matches and the over all site, that is easily to navigate. I been to a few sites like yahoo personals, christian mingles and eharmony. I got to say I like all three sites the only thing is eharmony gives out few matches it seems like and you can only see the pics if you pay and the other sites are great but are they worth the money? I am 28/m and I am looking for site geared towards finding some one around my age. Any suggestions?

With all the electronic communication floating around, and the numberous amounts of dating sites, why is it that they don’t work? Or if they do actually work, why do they recommend other sites (example of Match.com recommending chemistry.com)? And it seems like none of these sites are free, and heaven forbid there be a chatting site anymore without the overflow of bots selling god knows what. I think I wasted enough money on so many different sites, that I’m fed up and looking for answers. How do these sites really work except to suck out money from our pockets and show nothing in return?

I have been talking to a man on im for about 7 months now. The conversation him and I have is very deep and thoughtful and we both thing that there could possibly be come chemistry. As strange as it may seem our relationship seems like our personalites mesh, but we’ve never met each other. (seen several pics though)

However I get upset whenever I don’t hear from him from a while. I mean we are not technically in a relationship so I shouldn’t expect him to always be there, but it’s been 45 days and no word from him. He’s gone M.I.A. before but never this long.

Any who my question involves our methods of communication. I have give him my phone number several times yet he will not call. I do not understand this. He is my age (20) and very shy and insecure, but he still won’t call me.

Do you think that he only sees the relationship potential as being online friends and wants nothing more? I don’t understand him at all. I know he’s legit. I just don’t understand why he won’t call.
Please take in consideration that I know that he is a legitimate person.

Also we have both said that we want more out of the internet relationship ( actually meeting) but see we are both in college and are in a different state, and this makes things exceedingly difficult.

I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I am a subscribed/paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:
1. Yahoo.com
2. Match.com
3. True.com
4. Eharmony.com
5. Chemistry.com
6. FriendFinder.com
7. Passion.com
8. BigChurch.com
9. MySpace.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.

After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:
1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

A. What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man
seeks Woman"? ? ?

B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of
written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?

I met a guy online about a year ago… random meeting in a yahoo chat room. I live in the midwest and he lives in the south. Since the time we met we have become good friends and we have great chemistry. We’ve seen each other on pictures and web cam but we want to meet in person. I plan to meet in a mutual area with one of my friends with me. Has anyone ever done this before?
We are both adults in our 20s

About Internet/Online ‘Dating’ Websites for Platonic Friendship or Amore/Romance: Communication/meeting
Internet/Online ‘Dating’ Websites for Friendship or Amore/Romance

I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I am a both a member here at PlentyOfFish.com and a subscribed/paid membership on other on-line ‘dating’ websites, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:

1. Yahoo.com 2. Match.com 3. True.com 4. Eharmony.com 5. Chemistry.com 6. FriendFinder.com 7. Passion.com 8. BigChurch.com 9. MySpace.com

I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).

However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:

1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

What’s the deal with this prejudice/discrimination from these peer-aged women with so-called ‘matched’ profiles ads???

I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:

I constantly experience that peer-aged woman; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of photo or lack of a photo; on the following Internet ‘dating’ sites(Yahoo.com, Match.com, True.com, EHarmony, Chemistry.com, and Passion.com) that peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r selection preference of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:
1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.

What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze or thing– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man seeks Woman"? ? ?

Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)’ ? ? ?

…match.com, or chemistry.com? I am considering of joining one of them.

How much do they charge per month?
Are the people you meet on there real? Are they local?

If you have used one of those services, can you please let me know so I can make an informed decision? Thank you

I recently decided to put myself up on one of those dating sites and opened a profile. After a few days I started on it, I saw several other profiles that caught my attention. One guy sent me a message and we started chatting; we both liked each other through pics. After many nights of chats we decided to meet. We did, it was charming. A great guy! He texted me first so I got excited that he was pretty much letting me know he liked meeting me in person. The next few dates went out as planned. Firstm a nice dinner, the second date a nice dinner, drinks and a few kisses. The third date, dinner and more kisses and we ended up cuddling at his place watching a movie. No sex, or bj’s, but lots of touching until the sun came up (he was pretty excited and me too, but we talked about the sex and we both agreed that it was too soon). We felt very compatible. We would send texts to each other during the day or so and he told me that he felt a lot of chemistry with me…

After our third date, I knew he had to leave town to work on a personal project so I sort of let him "do his thing" for a while; no texts or e-mails, or just a quick hi (he’s not much of a phone talker). We had planned to meet right before his trip but he cancelled on me twice due to his inminent plans and how he had to "clear his head" before this big event. I understood….but after the two cancellations he stopped texting. Which is ok, I’m not the kind of "psycho" or crazy woman that would over analize a guy. I sent him a couple of casual texts until he replied. He said that he wanted to see me when he was back. That was it. He wasn’t as expressive as before, or sounded so interested in seeing me again; just plain and simple "thank you" . Right before, he was pretty into seeing me….now, to clarify something, the guy seems lazy (only likes to get out when absolutely necessary) but he was just a tad more interested at the beginning.

Right before he left, I noticed he erased his profile at the dating website…don’t really know what to think..but I came up with these four:

-Either he is really preocuppied by this project of his; cant think of anything else now but his job
-He’s just not that into me
-He wants to get rid of me
-He wants to wait-he’s analizing the relationship.

After reading that book of "not that into you" I got severely scared…he’s not that into me; but he kept replying to my e-mails ( i sent him one just to wish him luck), he replied a little late, but did and said "very sweet" …no texts anymore…and we sort of left it at "we will definitely see other again".

What should I do, guys? I REALY Like this guy. I’m an adult, don’t like to play games and I am a very stable woman in my early 30′s (he’s too).

Thanks for your advise and look forward to see what you all have to say. I think I’m starting to sound psycho…
Wow, you guys have been incredibly helpful and so kind. Honestly, I feel a little more at ease…I will give him the benefit of the doubt (haha like in the movie) but I really enjoyed reading all the comments and the last guy’s perspective!
Much love to you all and wish me luck

Can I hear your stories, both good and bad?? I am thinking about getting on one but want to make sure its worth it first. Also can you tell me if sites like Match.com, and Chemistry have a area for interracial dating??

Thanks for all responses in advance!!!!

Met someone online a month ago…we havent stopped talking on the phone eversince. We talk for hours, text for hours, and have a lot of chemistry. We exchanged pics, but i havent done this before so i am a bit apprehensive. He plans on visiting me in a week and he says he is in the army. He has talked about marriage in such a short time and we really like each other. Any advice on this?