I’m a 32-year-old, heterosexual male who is single:
I am a subscribed/paid membership, totaling to at l e a s t 0.00 per month, to the following Internet ‘dating’ sites to “ ‘find’/‘look’/‘seek’ for a ‘love’ mate and experience mutual ‘love’ with this person”:
1. Yahoo.com
2. Match.com
3. True.com
4. Eharmony.com
5. Chemistry.com
6. FriendFinder.com
7. Passion.com
8. BigChurch.com
9. MySpace.com
I place/post photo(s) of myself on my personal ad/profile for each of the websites listed above.
After I read the match’s personal ad/profile, I write and send a different email to each ‘match’ for initiating contact with peer-aged match (the woman or women).
However, I constantly experience that the ‘matched’ person(s)— the peer-aged women–; regardless of race/ethnicity, regardless of her photo or none on her personal ad/profile; that the peer-aged Women do selectively eliminate me– they do n o t reply to any of my email(s) I sent– as potentially being her either platonic friend or amorous/romantic partner based upon h e r preference selection of "Her Ideal Person’s" traits, such as:
1) Height,
2) Race/ethnicity
3) ‘Body type’, and
4) Income/Occupation.
A. What is going on with the Online Internet ‘Dating’/"Personal Ad" craze/fad or ‘thing’– "Woman seeks Man"/"Man
seeks Woman"? ? ?
B. Where are the real Woman; n o t the Woman who are fake/’flakes’ or n o t those that are " teasers of
written/worded Personal Ads/Profiles, photos, and such)” ? ? ?
I’m a good girl – not easy but easygoing, can get along w. everyone and old fashioned in love. I’m going through this phase where i’m "jaded" right now (went through a situation a few months back) and am in no mood for guys right now. I’m not biter, I’ve moved on, i’m happy to be single & just want to take time for myself and it’ll be awhile ’til i become "close" and care for someone again. No relationships anytime soon.
My friend asked me to go on this date w. her co-worker. First off, "who is this? what’s his name? what’s he like?" I’m not a fan of "blind dating" and why would I go out w. someone I know nothing about. All she said was he was "nice". I’m sorry but "nice" isn’t going to cut it anymore b/c everyone is nice. I told her to jsut bring him to our get togethers and i’ll meet him there. I got there and this was this same guy, she tried to set me up w. a few months back. She knew he wasn’t my type and right away, I knew still wasn’t. He’s a cool guy but I wouldn’t date him. Now he’s texting me and I was cautious of that too b/c he seems more into me than I am of him and I don’t want to lead him on. He wants to take me to go to dinner "as friends" but we all know that that’s just an excuse to get closer until he gets what he wants…me lol And a guy won’t work that hard to be "friends" w. a girl. Now he’s all "bobby brown" on me w. texting (like raunchy) and it’s gross. My friend said he thinks "i’m hot" and tht I should go out w. him to get free dinner. NO WAY. I’d rather take MYSELF out to dinner and pay. I MAY BE SINGLE AND LONELY SOMETIMES BUT I’M NOT DESPERATE. Even guys scan out other girls REALLY well to see if she’s good enough for their friends, why can’t girls be the same? I know she means well but it’s an insult to me bc he’s not even my type and she keeps throwin the "friends" excuse and now i gotta deal w. this horny dude on my own. And it’s different between me and her b/c he WORKS w. her so of course, they’re gonna be friends.
Do you think I’m being a *****? What should I do and how do I handle this dude?
I told my friend straight up but she assures me he just wants to be "friends" and "he’s not like that" (my ***) I, however, don’t trust him b/c honestly, A GUY DOESN’T WORK THAT HARD TO BE "FRIENDS" W. A GIRL HE FINDS "BOMB", RIGHT?
he’s been texting since my friend gave him my #. If I text back right away all eager, he’ll take our "getting to know each other as friends" as "talking". So i’m being "real" w him right now. Not interested so not gona respond right away, i’ll do it later
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Assume that you know that he is married.
Would you stalk him to find out where he lived.
Do you think it is exciting to do something that is forbidden?
Online dating is not “what you see is what you get.” Photos are often swiped from modeling agency sites and profiles often completely plagiarized. Romance scams are pervasive, including this story of a convicted online dating pedophile.
What signs do I look for? A guy from an online dating website sent me a "wink", asked me to go with him to get coffee, wants to meet me, has e-mailed me, and is my friend on Facebook. Is this guy interested?
some days are better than others. like right now for instance, not a good day.
Was with my ex for a total of 7 yrs…engaged the last year of it. After on again off again (mistakes he made on his end= betrayal) He came back full throttle to commit on a serious level- so much so that he would drive 365 miles to visit me for 5 months straight just to spend 2 days with me in his quest to win me back. He eventually apologized to my Mother & Father for his unfounded, immature behavior in how he had treated their daughter (me). He reasoned with them and explained he wanted to make me his wife.
While we went to therapy- and i founded in my heart to forgive him, we tried to move on from his mistakes…in the past and all throughout the relationship. His goal was to put everything on the table in hopes that he could turn over a new slate and start fresh.
After almost 11 months of this—positive behavior, he proposed to me and I lovingly and purely accepted. I waited almost 6 years for this…indeed it did happen.
I agreed to move to another country (at the time he was working there also a citizen) and planned to immigrate while we planned a wedding.
This is where is gets… really really sad. When I moved up there, everything was going well for the first 3 months- However, I did noticed he seemed on another page when it came to wedding plans (just seemed disinterested) and then he never wanted to discuss plans about our future (tangible plans-like baby, budget, house, etc.) I was always the one to initiate discussion. When it came to his only request which involved merging "legally" he mentioned a pre-nup… I should have known this was a red flag! As time moved closer to planning our wedding, I asked him countless times if he could help fill out the "couples questionnaire" for the wedding officiant… i asked so many times it ended up being a battle. then came wedding invites…his alternative to saving money on the wedding was to e-mail invites to 200 guests -the only suggestion he even gave.
At this point-I noticed he seem disinterested and it really started to depress me. Then out he came with- we should cancel the wedding. He said were not getting along…and this is suppose to be the happiest part. (mind you-I have a ring on my finger, a venue booked, a dress bought, etc) he tells me this 8 months into the engagement. Then like clockwork-he seemed relieved and when I threatened to leave because of this… he cried and begged me not too. I listened to him and wanted so badly to believe his intentions were pure and he really wanted to work on "compromising." I stayed and waited and waited. And as I waited he expected me to bounce back back as quickly as him- (not so much) In fact, I started to resent him. I felt as if he was making excuses- then I started to pull away and then he did. Then I would try to move closer-then he would pull away.
Eventually- He called me to tell me he was sleeping over a friends house and was planning on drinking. I advised him to be safe and not to drive. Funny thing is- next morning he came home and looked…well like his conscience was eating at him. The moment I felt this(i have felt this before) I asked him if he did something that I need to know. He looked me dead in the eye and proceed to say NO then kiss me. Afterward hopped in the shower and seem "in another world." That very same day we were suppose to drive to the border and finalize my immigration papers. Before we left- he told me that he was with another girl the night before. Here I am- a state of complete numbness while I am hearing this. It was like deja vu all over again,
After a 6 hour walk by myself- I told him I was leaving him and proceeded to say "Thanks this just confirmed everything"
As I left a week later- I left my hopes, my dreams, and everything I wanted to build for the last 7 years. He took all of that away from me.
A year way from him- he still contacted me told me he missed my friendship.
Year 2 was actually harder-the shock value wore off and reality set in. I actually ended up missing him more than ever. We spoke briefly during this time and I once again fell into the ridiculous trap of getting my heart broken all over again- as he told me that his work will send him to the Czech Republic- my heart cringed and again-despair came over me. I politely asked him to end communication with me as it effected me way too much-as I still had love for him.
He just recently contacted me in September- wishing me well.
I can’t understand this person-? Even when I am not with him- I still am deeply enveloped.
I miss what we had- I miss the fun- the adventure- our commonalities. I had never in my life time been in love with someone as much as i was with him.
Now we are just strangers- Why does this pain heart so bad……. Why?
And is he thinking of me the same as i think of him?
I met a guy online about a year ago… random meeting in a yahoo chat room. I live in the midwest and he lives in the south. Since the time we met we have become good friends and we have great chemistry. We’ve seen each other on pictures and web cam but we want to meet in person. I plan to meet in a mutual area with one of my friends with me. Has anyone ever done this before?
We are both adults in our 20s
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