I dated "John" briefly several months ago. I knew immediately he was the one I wanted for life. He decided we weren’t soul mates and broke it off, but we remained friends. I ran into him a few weeks later and he asked if he could call me, that he missed talking to me. When he called he asked if he could fix me up with his friend. After several conversations, I reluctantly agreed. The question in the back of my mind was why did he want me to continue to be in his circle of his friends. Anyway, I met his friend, we started dating..I like him, he’s a nice guy. He asked me to move in with him, and due to other circumstances in my life that had nothing to do with him, I agreed. My two children and I moved in with him 6 weeks ago. During the whole process, John and I remained good friends, we talked frequently, etc..During one of our converstaions, I discovered that he still had feelings for me, he just would not admit it due to my situation. I know I’m in love with him, not his friend.

I would like an accurate source, not one that is really cheap and corny in that a 40-year old pervert is simply pretending to be a teenager. I am not interested in writing someone who wants to "date" or find a future soul mate, I just want to learn about European culture/daily life.

Hi, My g/f "ren" and I have been dating for 3 month and it’s a very serious relationship. I’m 22, she is 17, age is not a problem except for the fact I think she is umm.. "immature to dating" or can’t grasp it fully. We met and fell in love instantly, fairy tale kinda stuff. I try and be the nicest guy possible and treat her like the way a girl should be treated, give her everything she could ever want and meet all her wishes and more. I love her more then anything or anyone before. I’m 1005 loyal and expect the same and don’t tolerate cheating one bit.

she is anorexic, anxiety problems, depression, she cuts, inflicts pain upon her self to punsh herself, try commiting suicide few times before and is a very emotional and sometimes unbalanced person and feelings flip fastfrom happy to sad or angry.(i censor myself a lot and be careful of what i say). she is also bi and idc about it. (btw she does get help for her problems)

Problem:
3 weeks ago, she met new girl at school, and was like i think i have feelings for her more then just a friend. We have lot of problems in common and she can relate to me(ren). they hung out and she stole stuff for ren as gifts but nothing bad happened. ren explained all these feelings to me as soon as possible and felt really bad about it and she needed to think about it. she later said sorry and that she loves me more then anything and couldn’t live without me. i accept apology and move on. i knew she wouldn’t leave me. im fine we move on

2 days ago, (she put herself into psychiatric hospital) at the hospital, she said she met a new girl named maggie there and they have lot of problems in common and actually live really close to each other. maggie has a girlfriend. ren trys to talk to maggie about her feelings, and maggie ignores her. ren then calls me later that day and was like i met this girl here named maggie and i have feelings for her or i think i do. she was like i really want to try and see if it would work with her but i don’t want to lose you, i love you a lot and couldn’t live without you. and she was like you hate me, and i was like no, do what you want, you know my rules on cheating, if you’ll be happy with her, then be with her. (i love ren and want her to be happy however she gets it, but i wont be there if she cheats on me) she was like im soo confused.

she then calls me later and was crying and said she talked to counselor and realized that she loves me and can’t live with out me, and sorry that she put me through that. and she wasn’t even sure if it was feelings or jsut the medications they were using on her. she said she is horrible g/f and i opposed her and said otherwise. she says im the only one for her and will always be.

i don’t know what to do. i wasn’t hurt first time, but now im crushed and not sure what to think. idk if she really is my soul mate, doubt keeps filling me and it hurts a lot. i plan to talk to her more when she comes back in 3 days. what do i do? what does she feel? from your perspective. i need an outside view, normally im very good at giving advice but i need an outside view without my view corrupting it. can i trust her? is she my soul mate? am i what she wants? (i know these are quetions i should be asking her….)

plz no ass hole responses

My daughter is 14 and in the 8th grade. I noticed a boy texting her a lot last week. I thought he was around her age but found out he is a jr in high school. (11th grade) I feel this is too old for her. Boys that age aren’t looking for a "date" or "soul mate". My daughter is too naive and wishes for a boyfriend very much. I’m afraid what she might be talked into for fear of being rejected. This boy is good looking & looks older than his age, which is 17. What is he doing asking MY 14yr old daughter out? She stood him up last friday when he asked her to meet him at the movie theater. She didn’t feel comfortable meeting him in front of his friends alone. She wouldn’t of been allowed in the movie since it was NR17. So he told her he’d meet her at her track meet tonight & take her to see Disturbia tomorrow night since it’s PG13 & she’s been wanting to go see it. He can date high school girls…why is he getting my daughters hopes up? She’s too young. I’ve told her this but I’m just mom.
She does not live with me but with her dad in another state. I have NO say in the matter til she comes to live with me in two months. I don’t know this boy & her father & I do not get a long. We don’t even talk. If I were to call him and tell him about this boy he’d go off on ME instead of that boy. I get the blame of everything that goes wrong. I am a stay at home mom & able to supervise her where he dad is always gone. Either at their other property or at work. He gives our daughter too much freedom. I’m afraid she’ll get into some sort of trouble. I’m too far to help her out. I’m holding my breath til she finally graduates middle school. Which afterwards she will be moving in with me again. I moved away and she wished to finish out the school year with her friends. Now I wish I didn’t let her…what can I do? Should I call this boy? If so, what would I say? I don’t want to tell her dad. I fear what he might do to me or to our daughter.

I feel like there isn’t anyone out there for me. I know I’m only thirteen, and I have a while to go before I should start dating "for real".. But I’d just like to know. Believing in soul mates kind of gives me hope, you know?? When I look at my parents.. They don’t seam to me like anything NEAR perfect matches. They bicker a lot.. About pretty much everything. They act like babies. I don’t know.. So what’s you take on it? Is there a person out there for evreyone?

Im 20, Im trying to find a job, Im starting college in september. Maybe ill meet people there but for now, Im lonely as my best friend moved to another country, I only have 3 other friends but they barely talk to me. You know on the movie "I Love You Man" he used friendfinder.com, its like a dating site only it is to make friends not lovers. I am fully against online dating, thats not where I will meet my soul mate, so why do I approve of online finding friends? Am I really that desperate? Is this a good way to meet real true friends? Is it easy? Tips? Will people think Im a total loner for doing this?

Check these sites out, if not familiar on what I am talking about!

http://www.irfi.org/articles/articles_51_100/halal_dating.htm

http://syl.com/articles/datingislamictraditions.html

Is this taboo, or unorthodox to Islam?

I am Muslim; I agree that there should be a chaperon also with us if me and this other Muslim woman are to meet up – to see if we are compatible. This is to ensure that I have a good woman to be a mother and a permanent wife, in starting a family. I believe that knowing the woman beforehand will give an assurance to her parents (I have no parents), that there wouldn’t be a divorce in the future.

I feel that if "we" (both this woman whom I feel is my soul mate) as mature adults [she is 24; I am 29] have an agreement…to her parents, to meet her parents, in which to council us…this "halal dating" should be on terms of not violating anything that would be haraam, I’m a correct? I’ll elaborate below…

What I mean, is that I like this halal dating concept and, if only it is on innocent terms; with an agreement to her parents. It should be acceptable? Her parents don’t know of halal dating, and before I request to date their daughter (even though she is an adult – but its tradition); before giving a dowry; I would accept either the father or mother to attend us while we are meeting in public to assure them that we are not to do any funky intimate business behind their back! I’ll continue to have a chaperoned date if it needs to be. I really like this woman, and would hate to dishonor her parents.

To my Muslim brothers and sisters…please give me your opinions!