I dated "John" briefly several months ago. I knew immediately he was the one I wanted for life. He decided we weren’t soul mates and broke it off, but we remained friends. I ran into him a few weeks later and he asked if he could call me, that he missed talking to me. When he called he asked if he could fix me up with his friend. After several conversations, I reluctantly agreed. The question in the back of my mind was why did he want me to continue to be in his circle of his friends. Anyway, I met his friend, we started dating..I like him, he’s a nice guy. He asked me to move in with him, and due to other circumstances in my life that had nothing to do with him, I agreed. My two children and I moved in with him 6 weeks ago. During the whole process, John and I remained good friends, we talked frequently, etc..During one of our converstaions, I discovered that he still had feelings for me, he just would not admit it due to my situation. I know I’m in love with him, not his friend.

I am 34, divorced with a child. I got divorced due to domestic violence. I have been single ever since, and that was 10 years ago now (apart from 1 guy, more below). I just never found anyone who I liked enough to introduce to my son, and I would never have a sex-only thing with anyone. I’ve been busy with my son all these years but he is now a teenager. I’d dearly love to find someone but everyone in my circle, and who I meet, is taken already. Younger guys think I’m too old. Can’t win!

I did date one guy in 2008 but he turned out to be married and when I think about it, it still hurts. He used the fact I have a son and could not sleep overnights with him, to lead his double life.

Now, my cousin is my best friend. She’s 29 and single. She still lives at home and her dad pays for her car, her phone, her nights out, and her vacations. She dates a lot of guys, and has had fun with all of them.

However – now all her friends are getting married, she has become unbearable. She’s joined a bunch of "find a husband" websites, and literally bombards me with texts day and night about "who" she should date next, and "why" a certain guy hasn’t replied to her text straight away, etc.

I happily listen, even though I have enough issues of my own, but the extent to which she is now obsessed with finding a husband is ridiculous. If I tell her not to clog up my work email with all her messages, she’ll start clogging up my Yahoo and my phone. She talks day and night about whichever man she’s talking to online. I recently said "Hey, you know I still think about *name of married guy* sometimes and it hurts so much" and she replied "LOL! Get over it!"

She’s also starting to cut off members of our family who are getting married; she has another cousin who went straight from being a mistress to finding the guy of her dreams, and my cousin started screaming to me "where is her karma? Why doesn’t God punish her for being with a married guy knowingly? I’m boycotting her wedding".

I think she is probably depressed, but how do I handle all this when I am still devastated about what the guy I was seeing did to me? (turned out to be married) Believe me, I spend HOURS talking to and advising her, before anyone tells me I am selfish.

Another thing is she always tells new guys she meets that she "had a bad marriage" – she’s never even BEEN married! It’s something she invents to get sympathy. This is the kind of thing she pulls. I have every sympathy for her, even though she does not reciprocate, but I am losing patience.

I would like an accurate source, not one that is really cheap and corny in that a 40-year old pervert is simply pretending to be a teenager. I am not interested in writing someone who wants to "date" or find a future soul mate, I just want to learn about European culture/daily life.

I am 34, divorced with a child. I got divorced due to domestic violence. I have been single ever since, and that was 10 years ago now (apart from 1 guy, more below). I just never found anyone who I liked enough to introduce to my son, and I would never have a sex-only thing with anyone. I’ve been busy with my son all these years but he is now a teenager. I’d dearly love to find someone but everyone in my circle, and who I meet, is taken already. Younger guys think I’m too old. Can’t win!

I did date one guy in 2008 but he turned out to be married and when I think about it, it still hurts. He used the fact I have a son and could not sleep overnights with him, to lead his double life.

Now, my cousin is my best friend. She’s 29 and single. She still lives at home and her dad pays for her car, her phone, her nights out, and her vacations. She dates a lot of guys, and has had fun with all of them.

However – now all her friends are getting married, she has become unbearable. She’s joined a bunch of "find a husband" websites, and literally bombards me with texts day and night about "who" she should date next, and "why" a certain guy hasn’t replied to her text straight away, etc.

I happily listen, even though I have enough issues of my own, but the extent to which she is now obsessed with finding a husband is ridiculous. If I tell her not to clog up my work email with all her messages, she’ll start clogging up my Yahoo and my phone. She talks day and night about whichever man she’s talking to online. I recently said "Hey, you know I still think about *name of married guy* sometimes and it hurts so much" and she replied "LOL! Get over it!"

She’s also starting to cut off members of our family who are getting married; she has another cousin who went straight from being a mistress to finding the guy of her dreams, and my cousin started screaming to me "where is her karma? Why doesn’t God punish her for being with a married guy knowingly? I’m boycotting her wedding".

I think she is probably depressed, but how do I handle all this when I am still devastated about what the guy I was seeing did to me? (turned out to be married) Believe me, I spend HOURS talking to and advising her, before anyone tells me I am selfish.

Another thing is she always tells new guys she meets that she "had a bad marriage" – she’s never even BEEN married! It’s something she invents to get sympathy. This is the kind of thing she pulls.

Mexican soap opera star Fernanda Romero is back in the headlines. The sultry beauty, who faces accusation of fraudulently marrying a California man to get legal residency in the United States, is expected to stand trial on immigration-fraud charges this week.The actress’ American husband Kent Ross will join her in the trial, beginning Aug. 24, 2010, according to multiple online published reports.

Actress’ sham marriage
Romero, a well-known Mexican soap opera star, and Kent Ross, a US musician whom she married in 2005, were arrested in April on marriage fraud charges.

Maria Fernanda Romero Martinez of Westwood, better known by her stage name Fernanda Romero, and Ross, of California, both 28, wed on June 12, 2005, but they never lived together and even continued to date other people, as claimed by Swiss fashion photographer Markus Klinko.

Ex-beau exposes Romero
Klinko, who used to be Romero’s onetime boyfriend, exposed the actress’ so called green-card scam marriage to federal immigration authorities after she dumped Klinko in 2007, reports the New York Post.

Klinko claims he dated Romero in 2007 while she was still married to Ross.

Klinko, who used to be Romero’s onetime boyfriend, exposed the actress’ so called green-card scam marriage to federal immigration authorities after she dumped Klinko in 2007, reports the New York Post.

Trial set on immigration-fraud charges
Klinko, star of the Bravo reality show "Double Exposure," is now expected to be the main witness at the pair’s criminal trial, starting Tuesday in Los Angeles.

The celebrity photographer has reportedly hired an investigator to gather evidence of Romero’s alleged sham marriage.

"Klinko went to great lengths to see to it that this case was criminally prosecuted and … did so because of his animus toward defendant Fernanda Romero," a defense petition said, according to CNN.

Pair pleads not guilty
The ‘Drag Me to Hell’ star, Romero was charged in a Los Angeles court on Monday for allegedly marrying Ross to marry her so that she could become a U.S. resident.

Both Romero and Ross have pleaded not guilty to charges of marriage fraud and making false statements, according to the Associated Press.

War of words
The prosecution will argue that the pair have never lived together and have continued to hang out with other people since their 2005 nuptials.

However, Romero and Ross’ lawyers maintain in their filings that the pair nuptials weren’t a scam, saying the pair had been in love but the marriage just didn’t work out, reports the Post.

The defense team will claim the Swiss snapper fabricated his story after Romero dumped him.

"This is a case of two young people in love but naive to the complexities of marriage. It is a case of an older man, Markus Klinko, who was obsessed with a young woman half his age, who, when spurned as her lover, was driven by spite and revenge to destroy her life, her career and her reputation," their filings say.

Accused of marrying for immigration purposes, Romero and Ross both face five years in prison if convicted.

http://www.themoneytimes.com/featured/20100825/trial-mexican-actress-accused-marrying-fraudulently-become-us-citizen-begin-id-101

Hi, My g/f "ren" and I have been dating for 3 month and it’s a very serious relationship. I’m 22, she is 17, age is not a problem except for the fact I think she is umm.. "immature to dating" or can’t grasp it fully. We met and fell in love instantly, fairy tale kinda stuff. I try and be the nicest guy possible and treat her like the way a girl should be treated, give her everything she could ever want and meet all her wishes and more. I love her more then anything or anyone before. I’m 1005 loyal and expect the same and don’t tolerate cheating one bit.

she is anorexic, anxiety problems, depression, she cuts, inflicts pain upon her self to punsh herself, try commiting suicide few times before and is a very emotional and sometimes unbalanced person and feelings flip fastfrom happy to sad or angry.(i censor myself a lot and be careful of what i say). she is also bi and idc about it. (btw she does get help for her problems)

Problem:
3 weeks ago, she met new girl at school, and was like i think i have feelings for her more then just a friend. We have lot of problems in common and she can relate to me(ren). they hung out and she stole stuff for ren as gifts but nothing bad happened. ren explained all these feelings to me as soon as possible and felt really bad about it and she needed to think about it. she later said sorry and that she loves me more then anything and couldn’t live without me. i accept apology and move on. i knew she wouldn’t leave me. im fine we move on

2 days ago, (she put herself into psychiatric hospital) at the hospital, she said she met a new girl named maggie there and they have lot of problems in common and actually live really close to each other. maggie has a girlfriend. ren trys to talk to maggie about her feelings, and maggie ignores her. ren then calls me later that day and was like i met this girl here named maggie and i have feelings for her or i think i do. she was like i really want to try and see if it would work with her but i don’t want to lose you, i love you a lot and couldn’t live without you. and she was like you hate me, and i was like no, do what you want, you know my rules on cheating, if you’ll be happy with her, then be with her. (i love ren and want her to be happy however she gets it, but i wont be there if she cheats on me) she was like im soo confused.

she then calls me later and was crying and said she talked to counselor and realized that she loves me and can’t live with out me, and sorry that she put me through that. and she wasn’t even sure if it was feelings or jsut the medications they were using on her. she said she is horrible g/f and i opposed her and said otherwise. she says im the only one for her and will always be.

i don’t know what to do. i wasn’t hurt first time, but now im crushed and not sure what to think. idk if she really is my soul mate, doubt keeps filling me and it hurts a lot. i plan to talk to her more when she comes back in 3 days. what do i do? what does she feel? from your perspective. i need an outside view, normally im very good at giving advice but i need an outside view without my view corrupting it. can i trust her? is she my soul mate? am i what she wants? (i know these are quetions i should be asking her….)

plz no ass hole responses

After finally doing a lot of research and asking a lot of questions and going to counceling myself, I have finally figured out what has been going on with my marriage of 3 years (relationship of 20 years). Now…..I’m stuck. Here I am…married to this N and I have found out that a really good friend of mine loves me completly and unconditionally. My friend is the "perfect" guy (to put it easily) And yet he’s still supporting me and behind me in trying to make my "marriage" work as long as that is what I want. My husband (N) is always "guilting" me into taking him back or staying with him. I know I shouldn’t let him, but….I just can’t seem to help it. I’ve known him since I was 8yr old….we started dating at 14…..he married someone else out of high school….and we always kept this "connection". I’ve always believed – alone with many other people and family that know him – that if anyone could make him change or realize that he needs help, it would be me. I’m not able to do it this time. He’s never been on meds for N and has only been diagnosed for depression/anxyety. Until my doctor mentioned something to me at one of my sessions with her….I had never even heard of Narcissistc Personality Disorder. When I started doing my research online about this….I couldn’t how much this was discribing my husband. I guess i’m looking for advise and some "knowing" how to stick to my "guns" when I tell him that I can’t go on with this marriage anymore. I can’t do this to my kids anymore either. It was my 12 year olds birthday this weekend. He asked me to please not let him back in the house for the rest of the weekend until he went back to his dad’s because he doesn’t want to be around him – he’s scared of him. He wouldn’t even help me unload the groceries from the car last night because he thought my husband would jump out from behind something!!!!!!!!! I need to cut the "bond" between me and my husband……..I DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO IT!!!!!

My daughter is 14 and in the 8th grade. I noticed a boy texting her a lot last week. I thought he was around her age but found out he is a jr in high school. (11th grade) I feel this is too old for her. Boys that age aren’t looking for a "date" or "soul mate". My daughter is too naive and wishes for a boyfriend very much. I’m afraid what she might be talked into for fear of being rejected. This boy is good looking & looks older than his age, which is 17. What is he doing asking MY 14yr old daughter out? She stood him up last friday when he asked her to meet him at the movie theater. She didn’t feel comfortable meeting him in front of his friends alone. She wouldn’t of been allowed in the movie since it was NR17. So he told her he’d meet her at her track meet tonight & take her to see Disturbia tomorrow night since it’s PG13 & she’s been wanting to go see it. He can date high school girls…why is he getting my daughters hopes up? She’s too young. I’ve told her this but I’m just mom.
She does not live with me but with her dad in another state. I have NO say in the matter til she comes to live with me in two months. I don’t know this boy & her father & I do not get a long. We don’t even talk. If I were to call him and tell him about this boy he’d go off on ME instead of that boy. I get the blame of everything that goes wrong. I am a stay at home mom & able to supervise her where he dad is always gone. Either at their other property or at work. He gives our daughter too much freedom. I’m afraid she’ll get into some sort of trouble. I’m too far to help her out. I’m holding my breath til she finally graduates middle school. Which afterwards she will be moving in with me again. I moved away and she wished to finish out the school year with her friends. Now I wish I didn’t let her…what can I do? Should I call this boy? If so, what would I say? I don’t want to tell her dad. I fear what he might do to me or to our daughter.

After finally doing a lot of research and asking a lot of questions and going to counceling myself, I have finally figured out what has been going on with my marriage of 3 years (relationship of 20 years). Now…..I’m stuck. Here I am…married to this N and I have found out that a really good friend of mine loves me completly and unconditionally. My friend is the "perfect" guy (to put it easily) And yet he’s still supporting me and behind me in trying to make my "marriage" work as long as that is what I want. My husband (N) is always "guilting" me into taking him back or staying with him. I know I shouldn’t let him, but….I just can’t seem to help it. I’ve known him since I was 8yr old….we started dating at 14…..he married someone else out of high school….and we always kept this "connection". I’ve always believed – alone with many other people and family that know him – that if anyone could make him change or realize that he needs help, it would be me. I’m not able to do it this time. He’s never been on meds for N and has only been diagnosed for depression/anxyety. Until my doctor mentioned something to me at one of my sessions with her….I had never even heard of Narcissistc Personality Disorder. When I started doing my research online about this….I couldn’t how much this was discribing my husband. I guess i’m looking for advise and some "knowing" how to stick to my "guns" when I tell him that I can’t go on with this marriage anymore. I can’t do this to my kids anymore either. It was my 12 year olds birthday this weekend. He asked me to please not let him back in the house for the rest of the weekend until he went back to his dad’s because he doesn’t want to be around him – he’s scared of him. He wouldn’t even help me unload the groceries from the car last night because he thought my husband would jump out from behind something!!!!!!!!! I need to cut the "bond" between me and my husband……..I DON’T KNOW HOW TO DO IT!!!!!

I feel like there isn’t anyone out there for me. I know I’m only thirteen, and I have a while to go before I should start dating "for real".. But I’d just like to know. Believing in soul mates kind of gives me hope, you know?? When I look at my parents.. They don’t seam to me like anything NEAR perfect matches. They bicker a lot.. About pretty much everything. They act like babies. I don’t know.. So what’s you take on it? Is there a person out there for evreyone?

I’m a newbie in L.A. A few months ago, I’ve done some sexual stuff online with a guy whom I thought was single. We’ve never met. Later on, it turned out he was actually married but it’s an open marriage. I immedeately did end the things after I learned the truth.

The thing is, we work in the same industry and all our friends are mutual. Including the guys I want to date. In fact, one of them is his brother. I would never think that option but seeing people have "open marriages", date their best friends’s exes in Hollywood make me think "Why not?"

What do you think? How is dating life going in Los(t) Angeles?
No I’m not in porn industry. People are insane in LA

Im 20, Im trying to find a job, Im starting college in september. Maybe ill meet people there but for now, Im lonely as my best friend moved to another country, I only have 3 other friends but they barely talk to me. You know on the movie "I Love You Man" he used friendfinder.com, its like a dating site only it is to make friends not lovers. I am fully against online dating, thats not where I will meet my soul mate, so why do I approve of online finding friends? Am I really that desperate? Is this a good way to meet real true friends? Is it easy? Tips? Will people think Im a total loner for doing this?

We dated online for 5 years
Met in person 3 times
Planning on dating when I’m in university and her in college within the next few months.

She’s my first love and doesn’t know if I want to marry her. Were both virgins. I love her passionately for her interests in graphic design, her sense of humour, her looks. My interests are politics, law and economics. We have stuff in common in relation to video games, yugioh and computers.

I know I’m jumping the gun, but if theoretically we got married what religion would the kids be? I don’t want her to convert because her ancestors might have fought to protect their religion and same with me. I fear if the kids both follow our religions they will become atheists and it will confuse them.

I love this girl with my entire heart, I know I have a long long way to go before the word "marriage" can even come up. I have yet to impress her parents and seek approval from mine..but I don’t want to pursue a relationship if theres no happy ending to it.

Check these sites out, if not familiar on what I am talking about!

http://www.irfi.org/articles/articles_51_100/halal_dating.htm

http://syl.com/articles/datingislamictraditions.html

Is this taboo, or unorthodox to Islam?

I am Muslim; I agree that there should be a chaperon also with us if me and this other Muslim woman are to meet up – to see if we are compatible. This is to ensure that I have a good woman to be a mother and a permanent wife, in starting a family. I believe that knowing the woman beforehand will give an assurance to her parents (I have no parents), that there wouldn’t be a divorce in the future.

I feel that if "we" (both this woman whom I feel is my soul mate) as mature adults [she is 24; I am 29] have an agreement…to her parents, to meet her parents, in which to council us…this "halal dating" should be on terms of not violating anything that would be haraam, I’m a correct? I’ll elaborate below…

What I mean, is that I like this halal dating concept and, if only it is on innocent terms; with an agreement to her parents. It should be acceptable? Her parents don’t know of halal dating, and before I request to date their daughter (even though she is an adult – but its tradition); before giving a dowry; I would accept either the father or mother to attend us while we are meeting in public to assure them that we are not to do any funky intimate business behind their back! I’ll continue to have a chaperoned date if it needs to be. I really like this woman, and would hate to dishonor her parents.

To my Muslim brothers and sisters…please give me your opinions!

ive been dating my bf for a year.
friends for 3 years
we are 3 hours apart until june 1
i will be done my masters and moving back home to his / my city

since then i failed to live up to something i told him i would do
i have said several times over last year i was planning on losing weight to go from size 6/8 to size 2/4.
I dont feel comfortable wearing a swimsuit or wearing revealing sexy clothes with extra weigh on (im very petite boned)

anyway there were only a couple times he said odd things when we were just friends before dating (we each were dating other people then)

twice a couple years ago he told me out of th eblue he felt like "being mean to people"
then about a year ago he told me that if he wasnt religious he would probably act like "more of a sociopath"

but since he was a fun friend i shrugged it off.

so now fast forward and weve been dating ….things seemed to be going well
but then i found out from a mutual friend that he actually placed a personal ad on a christian personal ad site looking for a sweet smart church going girl who is "in shape"

i was beyond hurt because it was just after we spent a long weekend together (valentine’s day)

I decided to confront him online and ask him why he would do this. he said he was bored at work.
i let it go and since then we had a another long fun weekend.
but then i received the ACTUAL email he sent out to the mutual friend who told me about his ad.
he acts totally single.
Now I decided to finally confront him in person …

When he was relaxed and we were just chilling I asked him very seriously why he would put an ad online. That i felt he is trying to better deal and replace me.
At first he actually wanted to make a joke and change the subject.

then he suddenly turned on me and acted negative.

Even though I m a little overweight, i do exercise and eat well.
he told me im not in shape right now.
i told my friends this and they said that was crazy talk.

he then told me he has dated "a dancer, real model and a marathon runner" and that he looks cute chubby but it doesnt work for me. (Im not exactly obese ! size 6 or often a 4 in a lot of pants/skirts. my weight is mainly in my boobs and arms !)
he then added that im just coasting on my personality and the fact that Im devout believer with him right now.
Ouch
A lot of people , total strangers, give me random compliments on my looks. So I DONT understand his appraisal.

Since his sudden anger lashing out at me I now view him with trepidation.
Im trying to blame his sudden anger on being drunk, but he was sooo cruel.

The next day was Easter and he went back to being sweet and sunny towards me.

Is there something wrong with him ? Was he just being a mean drunk ?
he is nearly 36 and im 32 btw
i feel like there is this huge chasm between us. I am very UNDERSTANDING.
All he needed to do was explain why he did what he did.
Instead he added insult to injury by making me feel like an unattractive person in his eyes currently.

also, he does sweet things so it confuses me.

he once rescued two kittens and theyre now his beloved pets. (although he does offer them more affection and snuggles than me a lot. lol)

** and
he really has dated a dancer (his ex who left him) a "real model" (thats a crack at me because i did informal modeling)
and also a marathon runner who left him after they had sex.
he also works out a lot and is in great shape himself except for a small gut.

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and im doubly confused because the day after this huge blow up over my weight, he actually invited me to both his dad’s and brother’s separate upcoming birthdays……….

why does he want me to keep seeing him and being around his family (theyre very attached to me and tell him how great i am a lot)