Well heres the story 5 years ago i moved to France.
I went on facebook a 2 months ago and my friend (who lives in England) basically introduced me to her ex, Matthew and omg he is great and i feel we get on really well although he lives in England…
(btw hes 17 im 15) see after 1 month of being a "couple" i visted England for 1 day to see my best friend whom i havnt seen in ages but didnt see him as i was only there for 1 day and he lives miles away from where i was visiting but he of course asks why i didnt come see him and whilst i tried to explain he cut me off…, his facebook profile and said "single"! so I asked my friend to talk to him then, 2 days later i go on facebook again and apparently their dating again some talk they had..?!

He keeps messaging me "why arnt you talking to me x " , " please talk to me im sorry" all while "dating" Her….
I have had online relationships before but they where never like this!
Sorry i typed alot i got caught in the moment of being mad >.<
thankies xx

I had an ad on a personals site and was doing some searching like always, and this girl leaves a message. We typed a lot in messages and, later, on IM’s and had some things in common (so I made my profile hidden)…but I already had my sights set on a girl on myspace that I first msg’d 6 months ago but is now showing "single" when she wasn’t before. The myspace girl definitely had something I was looking for physically while the other girl I couldn’t be too sure of due to her pics…so I decided to take her off my IM buddy list and pursue the other girl. The myspace girl txt’d me A LOT, and I said I was going to ask her out on the second date (to make it official)…but I did a lot of thinking after the first date, and she just didn’t seem too intelligent to me (I have a bachelor’s from UNLV, so I’m a little picky when it comes to smarts)…but boy was she endowed. I went ahead and paid for everything on the second date as I did on the first, but at the end of the night, I explained that we just weren’t compatible mentally and proceeded to drive her home after we were all finished eating. I noticed she put "feeling rejected" on her myspace, and I felt bad…but at least I was straightforward and honest with her…and she didn’t look as physically attractive to me anymore. The other girl IM’d me outta nowhere after, like, almost a month of not talking to her, and after chatting awhile, I just decided to throw it out there and asked if she wanted to go out and eat sometime. She was totally down, so we went out…and wow, I was surprised…she was packed, too, AND had brains. I added her back to my IM buddy list, and she had given me her number, so I had been txt’ing her every now and then but not too much since I didn’t want to seem desperate.

This is where it starts. I txt’d her if she was still down for going out (second date), and she txt’d back she definitely was. She didn’t give me a time, but I txt’d to just txt me back or call back and let me know. I was sleeping and she woke me up to talk about when to meet up. We did, and it went well. As I walked her to her car, she mentioned we should do this again. She had a paper to write for school, and I said I would be online (in case she got done and wanted to chat a little). I txt’d her that I had to go to the gym and would bbl in case she got online while I was out of the house. She then txts me she just finished her paper, I respond, and that was it. The next night, I txt’d if she was cramming for a test and what she wanted to do next weekend. She said she already planning on visiting her family in her hometown and that we could do something the weekend after…and that was the last time I contacted her (so as not to seem desperate).

I initiated contact right before the second date, said I would be online afterwards, and initiated contact regarding a third…so now, in my mind, the ball is in her court. She msg’d me first on the personals site and IM’d me like crazy before I took her off my buddy list (she didn’t know I did), and even tho I lapsed for awhile, I had been txt’ing/IM’ing her a lot, so now she should initiate contact w/ me this time to let me know she’s still interested and that it’s mutual (I’ve already shown that I am). She’s on the personals site everyday but looking for "friends" not "dating"…and I found her on myspace (private profile) which I noticed she checks everyday. I’ve seen her on IM at times, but she doesn’t even IM to say "hi"…or txt…or call/leave voicemail. She goes to school fulltime and works fulltime, but I am not giving-in…she either makes the next contact, or I’m moving on. It’s been a week; what does this mean? Is she really that busy? Is she looking to date other guys? Is she keeping tabs on me and making sure I don’t put my profile up on the personals site or go on myspace to "supposedly" check messages (she knows my myspace)? Is she not as attracted anymore since the chase is over? Is she waiting for me to make the next contact when she should know I’ve done it the last three times and have clearly shown I’m interested? I know it’s only been a week, and I really shouldn’t be tripping…but what does this mean?

I’m so sick of mixed signals if that’s even what it is. I need some opinions on this.
My bf and I broke up about a month ago, shortly after he learned he’d be getting punished for an accident that happened in the barracks. This drunk friend of his fell 3 stories onto his head..just so happened to be my bf’s duty day so they’re trying to pin it on him. So dumb. He broke up with me saying that He needed a break..he needed to think about stuff; he didnt know if he wanted to be in a relationship right now and that he didnt want to hurt me.
He was very fair about it but a week later he tells me that he just doesnt care anymore. I know this kid like he back of my hand. His sister talked to him and told me that i should just know that he cares its just a big situation he’s dealing with that is making life miserable for him. Nothing was going wrong in the relationship that I saw for him to say that he just didnt care anymore. He’d said he still wants to be friends but doesnt want me to wait around.
The last time I talked to him was about 2 weeks ago or so and he was asking for the jewelery he’d given me back…how rude! He gave me a necklace for my birthday and a promise ring(that i didnt ask for) at christmas. I semi freaked out the 2nd night in a row he asked for the gifts back and told him he was being rude. Thats the last contact we’ve had. I did manage to get the reason why he wanted the jewelry back. he said he wanted it because he paid for it….and when i told him im keeping my gifts he asked me why i wanted them when they symbolize a relationship that didnt work….
ummm? It was working..until he got all stressed out. What is the deal? I understand he’s probably trying to protect my feelings by asking for a break but why is he asking for gifts back? He seems like its all over but he only asked for a break. Mixed signals..ugh.
Here’s some more interesting clues.. he is stationed in AZ..I’m still at school in MN. We’ve already cleared up if he cheated and he didnt. BUTTTT he did not tell anybody that we had broke up..i actually broke the news to his best friends wife and I thought she already knew. His best friend didnt know. He hasnt been on facebook or myspace anything like that to change anything which usually he’s online and up to date(i know its stupid but its still an interesting clue ya know) So bascially nobody that I know of besides his best friend and wife know that we had broken up.
His friends wife has been texting me a little but she says he doesnt talk about the break up and he doesnt talk about the punishment. he just says he’s in trouble.
Whats with all the mystery? His friends wife tried asking her husband about it and all he said is "he’s single" the two guys dont know that us girls talk so why are they hiding stuff from us?

Any opinions!? They’re really appreciated.. but dont give me that mean nasty answers. I want honest opinions. I’m going through a hard time so please try to give me some peace of mind
ok when I said "mixed signals" please remember I’m STRESSED OUT! and I’m confused and constantly thinking so oops maybe I used the wrong word…mixed signals might not be it. so please dont be rude!

I met my guy online. On our second date, he claimed to be married to an immigrant. He said he felt pressured by his family to do this. His "wife" has never lived with him, but he bought a house to "prove" to the court it was not an illegal marriage. She actually lives with her russian bf and recently gave birth to a baby – which is not my boyfriend’s. However, he had to get his name removed from the birth certificate. He believes if he is caught he will go to a federal "resort" prison. What I care about most is that he lied to me. He calls this his "dark secret," but to me it’s more. He thinks this lie was not directed at me, and he wants me to "help" him understand why I’m mad – I think he should already know. On the site I met him, he listed himself as "single."
Also, his stepdad who supposedly "pressured" him, didn’t know these immigrants for very long. I don’t feel it was my bf’s responsibility to take care of her citizenship. Also, why couldn’t he say no? He seems like a pushover.
He’s, my bf, is the US citizen – His "wife" is a russian immigrant.

Some people say that online relationship statuses are no big deal, while others agree that they are (or should be) accurate indicators. I am 50/50 on this and need help…

My current bf and I have been in love with each other for the past year & a half but due to circumstance, couldn’t really date at the time (we live really far and didn’t want to complicate things). But we still talked EVERY day, told each other we loved each other, made plans to see each other, sent each other gifts, didn’t see other people, etc etc.

He came to visit me last month & we had an AMAZING time together, better than expected, and decided we could definitely make it work as a couple, since we were basically "acting" like one anyway (I mean, the feelings are there!) We mutually agreed to be EXCLUSIVE to each other (like we were anyway) and use the term "bf" & "gf" w/ each other.

I’m not "insecure" about our relationship BUT it IS long distance (I mean, really long… I’m in Miami, he’s in the UK..) so it’s harder. His myspace/facebook status still says "single" and he uses those sites EVERY DAY- in fact, that’s how we met!

There are also no pics of us together & he actually told me to "please not tag him in any photos" b/c it’d be weird if his mom found out through that, that we were together, since she has facebook. (He’s 26.) Riiight.

There are also a few flirty comments from a girl on his myspace that are recent which he’s replied to (though he hasn’t said much.. who knows how else they could be communicating..?)

I asked him to change it about 3-ish weeks ago. He said it just slipped his mind, but he’d do it the nect time he got on. He’s been on since & still hasn’t changed it, although there are other updates on his page. So what the hell.

I didn’t think I had much to worry about since while he was here, he introduced me to his friends & his brother. Plus he talks about getting married-seriously- and even moving here to be with me ALL the time. We’ve been in contact for so long & he spent so much $$ to come see me, we didn’t even have sex while he was here! So IF he’s lying, why? He’s not getting anything out of it… Should I bring it up again? & how?

P.S.- if myspace is "no big deal" then what IS the big deal? Why doesn’t he just change it instead of hiding it? Thanks!

so my GUY FRIEND hooked me up with one of his friends who thought i was cute….we have been chatting online for the past week….(he wants to hang out this weekend) but so far we only been talking online and basically;
1. He always chats me first (ive done it like once)
2. He asked me "how come you are single"
3. He asked me about my past relationships
4. He asked me "what do you look for in a guy"
5. He asks me all these other stuff about myself…you know getting to know me.

BUT he doesn’t flirt…and he refers to us as "hanging out" so idk if its a date?

DOES THIS STILL HIM LIKE HES INTERESTED???

I’ve been "seeing" this guy for a few weeks. We text almost everyday and talk on the phone every few days. He have hung out a handful of times and our kids have met. I have known him (mutual friends and he and my friend dated along time ago) but we didn’t really talk much until we started talking online and then decided to hang out. I’m not really into rushing into a serious relationship I’m kinda holding back on that because of the kids and everything I have been thru and we haven’t even talked about that. So both of us are still "single" but he pays for everything and we are getting to know each other sharing information and talking about life. He lives about an hour from me and I just recently moved here I’m staying with family until I figure out what the next step is. I have been talking to him about this a lot and he has mentioned a few times that I should move to the town he lives in. Do you think that is a sign he wants to maybe eventually make the situation more serious? i also posted something the other day about needing a backrub on my online thing and he messaged me asking if anyone had volunteered yet. I said y are you volunteering and he replied well it depends how far down the list he was. I feel so dumb even asking this but relationships just usually happen I don’t really ever date and I have been in a relationship for pretty much all of my adult life this is the longest I’ve been single since I was a teenager.

I belong to an online dating service for singles. How can I run background checks, especially for current marital status? A few years ago I read an article which revealed over 30% of "singles" on dating services are actually married. Where do I go to find this information since these people are not likely to be disclosing this kind of information.

I met him online and dated him 3 days later. I wasn’t like that crazy about going out with him since the beginnig. I thought it was because he wasn’t exactly my type physically so I said i must give him a chance he deserves it. he’s very sweet and very good to me. We’ve been together for almost a month. I still can’t love him. I can’t help but be interested in other guys and my status on myspace is still "single" for a reason. I DON’T LOVE HIM. he seems to love me from his actions and he’s very attached to me alresady. He’s 25, I’m 20. Should I break up with him? It’s not fair to him… but also a part of me thinks I should give him more time, maybe some day I’ll be cinvinced he’s the one… what do you think?
oh and we see each other about 2-3 times a week

I’m 25 and have never dated. The clock is ticking and I want to have a family someday but my outlook is not promising. I feel like a lame loser. I’m average-looking, in medical school. I’m shy though, and part of the reason why I’m still single probably has to do with studying for the past…10 years and not going out much. Yes, many regrets… Anyway, I want to meet someone and I’ve had no success. I’ve tried studying at coffee shops, I’ve worked out at the gym… I’m tired of this. There are T-shirts available online with printed text "I’m Single, Let’s Mingle" or "I’m single, forward me to a friend" etc. Should I buy one and wear it every time I go out? Not sure what I’ll do if someone I don’t like approaches me though. Thanks for the input.

I met this girl through an online dating site, and we met up. We have had a great relationship for the last 3 months — we never fight, she introduces me to her friends, she publicly acknowledges that I’m her boyfriend.

I am leaving to go back to school in the next state in a week, so we won’t be able to be together as much. One of my friends found her profile on that dating site (she never took it down, just changed it to show that she wasn’t single and wasn’t looking) and talked to her online. He asked if she was really "not single" or "not looking" and she said yes. He asked why and she said that she had a guy that she had been talking to for awhile, but it was nothing serious. So then he asked if it was her boyfriend, or just a guy she was talking to, and she said "no he’s not my boyfriend he’s just a guy I talk to."

Well, my friend then told me about this.

Question is, how should I handle this? I called her last night and asked her if we were serious and she said yeah of course we are. I want to confront her but at the same time she didn’t really do anything wrong except say that she didn’t have a boyfriend, which is a lie. How should I confront her about it to where she can’t cover it up and can’t make any excuses or lies to get out of it?
More importantly, how do I confront her without ruining the relationship? Everything is GREAT between us, except for this one thing now….
Edit: I just called her and she said that yeah there are no problems in our relationship, as far as she knows.

I found out that I’ve been cheated on. Before my ex-husband-to-be announced he wanted a divorce from me he has been on online dating sites and talking to various women, applying himself as "single" and eager to move out and abandon me. I was shocked when he told me he wanted a divorce but I was patient as to let fate unwind and show me why he wanted it (I didn’t take his reasons as valid…they were pretty pathetic).

Was he too much of a chicken to tell me straight up that he wanted a divorce because he was disinterested in me? Why did he have to hide these women away from me and put up this elaborate fascade to make me think he’s not cheating on me? Why would he do this to someone who cares about him deeply (although I still do care, I cannot say I love him anymore). I tried my absolute best so I have no regrets, but I’m really upset that he has no guilt at all and acts very happy around me.

Am I justified? I need some support and advice…it’s very hard for me right now!

Help – I’ve been told I have "everything going for me" – I’ve been told I’m very good-looking, smart, talented, great personality, etc. . . But here I am, 25 years old; I’ve been working in a dead-end job for the past five months; I am grossly over-qualified for it (I have two B.A.s, both summa cum laude), making the yearly salary of a high school dropout, <,000/year, thanks recession. My college friends have all moved on, so I have no social network; nobody calls me anymore, when I go out at night, I’m almost always alone. 98% of my colleagues are over 35/married with children, so work provides no social opportunities. I’ve tried volunteering; at the last event I attended, I was the lone male among 17 retired women. Again: dead-end. And bars, bars, seriously, does anything worthwhile really ever begin in a damn bar? I try online dating: in the past two months, I’ve had my heart nearly smashed by a girl with borderline personality disorder, and as for the most recent girl? I took her out for an expensive dinner and dessert a couple nights ago; didn’t get a single "thank you," and discovered at the end of the date that she didn’t remember my name. <:|.

I’m at a loss. I’m just about to lose my mind. I mean, right now, I’m sitting in a musty office, with horrible flourescent lighting, and after 7 years of college, I order business cards, and make car reservations for people. I have no friends to look forward to seeing after work, no girl to get excited about. I feel like I should have the world by the balls: I work hard, take great care of myself, I care about helping people, and my intentions are good. Sometimes I feel like some unseen cosmic force is just throwing punches at me for no reason except malice. I feel isolated, beaten down, and taunted, like some animal trapped in a dark box, unable to see, much less confront, its assailants.

I’m not a naturally depressive/depressed guy, but for God’s sake, I feel like I’ve got crap coming at me from every angle. I feel like a living ghost, like somebody who is here, but not really. It’s killing me, probably in every sense of the word.

What should I do? I need opportunities to lead, to take initiative, to learn, and to meet people my own damn age, and become a bona fide fully formed "me." What should I do?

I’ve been talking to a guy from an online dating site (I havn’t met him yet) He doesn’t know that I’ve read his facebook where it says he’s recently divorced. I’ve asked him in email if he was single, divorced, or out of a relationship and he responded that he was "single".. TECHNICALLY he is "single".. but when you talk to someone from a dating website it would be appropriate to say divorced, which mean "you are single, but were married before".. Single is not the same as divorced! Agree? Should I be upset he’s hiding these details?

I really liked this girl.. Way more than I should have. I went over the top when she went out on a "singles" adventure that she had paid for before knowing me. She would show me affection, kiss in public even though she was averse to it, got me a v-day card and she is the only girl I ever met that didn’t like V-day. Well, I called her 3 times that night asking why she wouldn’t return my calls. Turns out, after she left that event (She could have called me then) her battery died when she got back to her friend’s place for the night. I didn’t hear from her until the morning and she freaked that I called so much and texted her a few times. That’s pretty much that. I had no idea where she really stood. I thought she wasn’t wanting to be serious, but I just got caught up in the bs, now she said she isn’t into me "That way" (Yeah, the famous first line of the friend zone) although we had great sexual attraction at first. I messed up, and I am not sure how to salvage it, but here is my plan.. Do you think this will work:

Told her in email, ok, maybe we can be friends.. (Didn’t commit) I could use more female friends.. After all, you can meet women easier if you are already surrounded by them..
Decided to meet again. Was going to redo everything.. Instead of preconceived notions we had through online dating service matchup, was going to project all my masculinity, body language, disinterest, flirty teasing, and tell her straight up, well, I am not really interested in being friends. I thought we had something there, and that we had a lack of understanding recently brought me to an epiphany. I can’t be friends. I don’t mind hanging with you, and I would love to do stuff together occasionally, but I can’t commit to a friendship because of the sexual attraction that would always be there. I wouldn’t want the friendship to eventually end in a disaster because of some untimely advance, so I am not having it. Sorry, we can either move on, or we can accept that. What’s the community opinion? Once in that zone, it’s no return, but staving it off before it becomes ingrained in the woman’s head is best. I tell you this, I am never going to be that affected by her again, so it will be easier for me anyway.