I want to talk to her in a group setting with other people present in which she is comfortable.

I would prefer to marry her as soon as financially possible but also I am OK with a long term NON-PHYSICAL time of getting to know each other before marriage.

I want to marry her so that I can be friends with her and also have children with her.

I’ve found it to become more and more common and less taboo. I’m 19 and I know "dating" is a lot more common against most Muslims I know, even in cmparison to 5 yrs ago. My parents were furious to the point of no return when I was 14 and had a Muslim boyfried (completely innocent, all we did was talk online). However, if I were to date now, they wouldn’t mind, as long as the guy was Muslim. Thre are still those that don’t, but instead the get ‘engaged’ so they can basically date w/o getting talked about. Even older divorcees seem to be dating now, too. These are men/women that would never date in the past, but are now seeing the benefits, as they don’t want to just jump into something serious. What are your views? Do you/Would you ever date?
Hysteria-I think mutah is hypocritical. If you personally believe dating is haraam making it into a contract just to have sex, doesn’t make it right. Plus, dating doesn’t necessarily mean sex. Dating is getting to know other people to narrow down the process of what you want in an eventual partner. In mutah none of that matters, it’s almost solely done for sex.

So I like this guy and he liked me too, it was really obvious and things, and were four years but that is really nothing, Im still in school and after i told him this he kind of backed off, but still showed interest. My family told me he probably still liked me but just was taken back by age difference, and that made sense. Anyway my sister wanted to go where he worked and was like okay sure. And when he got there he ignored me, and at one point i opened my mouth to say Salaam and he looked away. He looked real pissed. And so we just bought stuff there and left. Almost his whole family works there, and i noticed his cousins there used to like run up to him when we walked in, but this time, they all gave me weird looks..and its dumb because i have no idea what i did. I know my facebook got messed up one time. so he couldn’t see my wall, and just so happened it was my birthday that day, and deleted that setting right away, because it was an accident. And i said hi to him, when he was on idle, and he didn’t reply for like 30 min, and so i said "k your probably busy." Then he went online, and i thought he was gonna reply but then it went on idle again. And it really hurt, i cried alot even though it was my birthday. It felt like someone stabbed me. I mean i didn’t scare him off, i wasn’t constantly talking to him, I wasn’t like oh LETS GET MARRIED AND HAVE 5 KIDS. nahh, I’m not a creep. I was just friendly and he dissed me. I also noticed the girls he hangs out are really "interesting" like party girls. And I’m pretty sure he’s been with alot of girls. So have his dumb azz buddies. It just hurts cause I see it all the time, muslim guys dating "interesting" party girls. And if i do that with guys, they call me a whore. I wish I had never met him. I wish I never fell for it. And it’s thanks to him, my parents officially hate Arab guys (my family is berber)

And I keep having weird dreams with him in it and God is talking. I wish i didn’t have these dreams. I want him gone. We could’ve just been friends but he had to be an a$$hole.
@ AbdulMalik, insensative much, go somewhere else, NO ONE LOVES YOU. plus I know it’s god because You see Allah written in Arabic in the sky, and you can tell it’s Allah because you it’s a peaceful feeling. and satan can’t disguise himself as God.

okay. so me && this muslim boy have been "dating" for a month now && we’ve known each other for 2 years. But the thing for this relationship is that I dont consider this to be haram because this is a long-distance relationship and we only talk online && the phone. Also our parents don’t know about this relationship. And we have not seen each other for a long time. Do you think this relationship is haram? Do you think we should tell our parents, if so how? How do we explain it?

We couldn’t be more opposite.

We met online just the other night, but I can’t get him out of my head. We’ve also spoken over the phone.

He moved to my state about a month ago. Our cities are about an hour apart.

I’ve already told him I prefer Christian guys and have a habit of trying to convert any non-Christian guys I go out with– my pastor refers to it as "Missionary-Dating" (seeing dates as converts and being a Missionary instead of just a date or a girlfriend).

He’s looking to find a woman, marry her and start a HUGE family right away (at least 6 kids). He has no intentions of returning home, but will continue to send money to his family. I’ve already considered the possibility that he’s just looking for a green card or an insurance policy (a baby).

I know I should just consider him a friend, but I think I’m falling for him. It also doesn’t help that my favorite Disney movie is Aladdin…

Should I keep him at a distance or follow my heart and let things just happen?
When I like a guy–really like him, I bring him to church. I pray and ask God, but I’m not sure of his answer.
I’ve already told him I prefer Christian guys and he said religion doesn’t matter to him… Any guy I’d become serious about would have to love me as well as my Father (in heaven). I think I’d easier if we were both on the same page (of the bible!)
Why can’t I be falling in love with him? How long would I have to know him before I could start to have feelings for him???

If things do progress to kids, they WILL be Christian, they’re be no negotiation on that. If he goes home, my kids and I will prolly not follow. The movie "Not Without My Daughter" scared the crap outta me and I’d rather not live through that.

I’m trying to understand him and his beliefs. He tries to explain Islam to me, but it is still apart from Christianity. It’s easy to say "do not be unequally yolked" but it’s almost impossible to control whom you fall in love with.