So this is a little about the situation. There is a guy who I have been talking to online for about 1.5 years or so. We met in a Christian chat room, we are both Christians and have a good relationship with God. We no longer go into that chat room, but we have talked through the computer (like on skype and AIM), constantly.

Well things started to change about 2.5 weeks ago. He started asking me what I was looking for in a relationship, about my ex boyfriends, and started flirting with me like crazy. Finally he told me that he likes me more then a friend, and cares deeply for me. The thing is, I really like him too. But I am in California and he is in Texas (so quite some distance). We both said, let’s just see where things go. But since then, it has been CONSTANT flirting, and constant love-connection going on. We are constantly talking about hugging one another, kisses, and things like that. We have even had a few online "dates" like when we both watch the same movie together, and we both chat while we are watching… that type of thing.

We are both hesitant to start a long distance relationship, but things just seem so right when we talk. After talking, flirting and chatting EVERY NIGHT for 3 weeks, and for hours on end. I am starting to feel better about having a long distance relationship.

But he is still so hesitant and doesn’t want to make it "official" yet. I am planning on going to visit him within the next month or so, maybe a little longer. And I am not trying to rush into anything. But I am like, what else can we be doing if it’s a long distance relationship? I feel like we are pretty much boyfriend/girlfriend as it is right now.

My question is, how can I make him more comfortable with starting a relationship with me? And how can I feel better about it? Any advice in this category at all? Is it a good idea to just wait till we officially meet and then start it? Things just seem SO RIGHT.

By the way, I am 24 and he is 22. I can see myself marrying someone like him. I like him a lot, and he likes me a lot.

Thanks for your time and input!

I am sixteen years old and a senior in high school. I do all of my school online, so I don’t socialize too much outside of the theater I participate in. Recently, a guy asked me to be his date to his sister’s wedding. He’s also sixteen, a junior, and is in the same theater program. My parents have met him and like him well enough, (he came over to my house with some friends, and I’ve also been to a few outings where he was present) but don’t want me to go because they don’t want me to date. The exact word they used was maybe. It sounded to me as a ‘probably not’, though.

I feel as though it’s impossible. My family are ultra-strict traditional Catholics that don’t think I should date until I am ready to get married (I.E. out of college). They told me to ask our priest whether I can go or not, but I’m pretty sure he will say no —he’s incredibly strict (as in dresses or skirts have to hang below the knees, no dating is allowed at all, no being alone with a guy ever, no sleeveless tops, no ANYTHING. lol). The only way he might say yes is if I made it sound like this guy is only a friend and I know his sister. Which the guy is a friend (and nothing else — as of now i haven’t gone behind my parent’s backs at all) and I have met his sister (once… lol).

Also, my mom doesn’t trust me so she will probably make sure I asked the priest by asking him the same question from /her/ point of view. And she will say that we like each other as more than friends and that I was the only person he invited and that I don’t really know his sister. >_<

My mom knows that we like each other and that we’ve told each other we like each other. She also has told me that if she let’s me go to the wedding I have to make it clear that I am not in any way interested in a "relationship" or "dating".

I’ll never have a prom (the online school thing does kind of suck) and I feel like this is my only way to have a slightly normal experience in high school for once. Plus I obviously really like him… =)

What should I do?

If I were to express my opinions, I would be grounded for life and never get to do theater again. lol. Geeze, it’s a christian wedding, not a underground rave party or something. The hard part is my mom — she pretty much controls my family. My dad is christian (non-practicing Mormon) and my mom is the Catholic. My dad has no opinions whatsoever with our upbringing and leaves it to mom. I’ve tried to tell him this but he doesn’t listen. =/
I already told her about it and she said maybe… but she was the one that brought everything up about it being a "date." She seems to believe that just because a boy asked me to go, no matter what the event actually is, that it’s a date. AND SHE’S SOOOO STUBBORN!!

I have been talking to and for all intents and purposes, "dating" a guy online for the past 4 and a half months. I am seriously in love with him and he with me. But he is not a christian. I know it is wrong to date a non christian and part of me wants to break up with him, repent and move on. But everytime I try to I go back to him. I have been a christian since last May but have not really been living it. I want to though despite how I feel about this guy. Should I just stop talking to him altogther and let him wonder what happened? Cuz everytime I have tried to talk to him and tell him I ended up talking myself into staying with him. And he would do the same thing; talk me out of breaking up with him. I feel God pressing on my heart how wrong this is but it is so tough to break free. So should I just cut it off and not tell him anything? Thanks for your time and God Bless You.
To answer those who ask, "Where in the bible does it say not to be involved with a non-believer?" It says: Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever for what fellowship does light have with darkness?