So this is a little about the situation. There is a guy who I have been talking to online for about 1.5 years or so. We met in a Christian chat room, we are both Christians and have a good relationship with God. We no longer go into that chat room, but we have talked through the computer (like on skype and AIM), constantly.

Well things started to change about 2.5 weeks ago. He started asking me what I was looking for in a relationship, about my ex boyfriends, and started flirting with me like crazy. Finally he told me that he likes me more then a friend, and cares deeply for me. The thing is, I really like him too. But I am in California and he is in Texas (so quite some distance). We both said, let’s just see where things go. But since then, it has been CONSTANT flirting, and constant love-connection going on. We are constantly talking about hugging one another, kisses, and things like that. We have even had a few online "dates" like when we both watch the same movie together, and we both chat while we are watching… that type of thing.

We are both hesitant to start a long distance relationship, but things just seem so right when we talk. After talking, flirting and chatting EVERY NIGHT for 3 weeks, and for hours on end. I am starting to feel better about having a long distance relationship.

But he is still so hesitant and doesn’t want to make it "official" yet. I am planning on going to visit him within the next month or so, maybe a little longer. And I am not trying to rush into anything. But I am like, what else can we be doing if it’s a long distance relationship? I feel like we are pretty much boyfriend/girlfriend as it is right now.

My question is, how can I make him more comfortable with starting a relationship with me? And how can I feel better about it? Any advice in this category at all? Is it a good idea to just wait till we officially meet and then start it? Things just seem SO RIGHT.

By the way, I am 24 and he is 22. I can see myself marrying someone like him. I like him a lot, and he likes me a lot.

Thanks for your time and input!

do you believe that the idea of a predestined "soul mate" exists? why or why not?
Ashera: i see what you mean, but that’s why i said they "eventually MEET," not stay with. it could just be someone you were in a class with, or a co-worker, someone you should have gotten to know but didn’t. you just passed them by because you didn’t know they were your soul mate.

I want to talk to her in a group setting with other people present in which she is comfortable.

I would prefer to marry her as soon as financially possible but also I am OK with a long term NON-PHYSICAL time of getting to know each other before marriage.

I want to marry her so that I can be friends with her and also have children with her.

Many times, people come to me and ask me about the meaning of "soul mate" and what is "true love"? Ive decided to put together a thesis giving different ideas of what the meaning of soul mate and true love are from people like yourselves. Your opinions, whether you believe in true love or not, will help me put together what I feel will be a wonderful collection of the meaning of soul mate and true love. Thank you in advance for your time and opinions. I look forward to reading each and every thought you all have and how men and women view this topic.

I’m looking for a poem about the subject of "waiting" for someone, "memory", or "soul mate" without it being too preachy or mentioning god. Any suggestions?

What importance do you place on this, say from 1 to 5, with 5 being very important?

What is in your 7th house?

Do you have to have a sexual intimacy with someone for them to be your soul mate?

What exactly makes a soul mate so special, and how would u know? Does it have to be like a friend, or a person ur in love with?

I’ve found it to become more and more common and less taboo. I’m 19 and I know "dating" is a lot more common against most Muslims I know, even in cmparison to 5 yrs ago. My parents were furious to the point of no return when I was 14 and had a Muslim boyfried (completely innocent, all we did was talk online). However, if I were to date now, they wouldn’t mind, as long as the guy was Muslim. Thre are still those that don’t, but instead the get ‘engaged’ so they can basically date w/o getting talked about. Even older divorcees seem to be dating now, too. These are men/women that would never date in the past, but are now seeing the benefits, as they don’t want to just jump into something serious. What are your views? Do you/Would you ever date?
Hysteria-I think mutah is hypocritical. If you personally believe dating is haraam making it into a contract just to have sex, doesn’t make it right. Plus, dating doesn’t necessarily mean sex. Dating is getting to know other people to narrow down the process of what you want in an eventual partner. In mutah none of that matters, it’s almost solely done for sex.

Is the "soul mate" even still available? How much American money did she get out of ole cheating Mark Sanford anyway?
I said that they wouldn’t impeach ole lying cheating Sanford. I knew it. Even after he left his post (MIA) to go and romp around with his "soul mate". Seems that the GOP has NO problem with that as long as it’s a GOPer doing the romping. They’re just so darn hypocritical LOL!

I am a member of an online dating site . I often get obvious form responses from "women " encouraging me to check them out at an " adult personals" forum. It’s , of course, spam. I now recognize the form letter and avoid. I have also gotten responses from women (nearly always an obviously professional photo of a strikng woman) who write in terrible broken english and use words that are just not right in context. They refer to a persons body as a "structure", etc. These I have found to be scams originating in africa, usually Nigeria. i don’t open them anymore either. But I also get responses which are almost normal. The problem is they don’t refer at all to what i wrote to them, nor use my name. They include a request to write to them on their personal mail address ( always yahoo or hotmail). Because of the vagueness in their notes to me, I somehow think something is amiss. I haven’t responded to them. If i write to a yahoo/html addy, can they get my personal info, ID, or anything?
The ones asking me to join an adult site are obviosly straight foreward solicitation. The African ones I now know about because after the first one ( a heartbreaking tale of an American woman who was visiting Nigeria with her family when they got into a car wreck. The whole family died except fot this poor girl who woke up in a Nigerian hospital, knowing no one and unable to pay her 10,000 dollar bill. She is stuck there until some kind American bachelor like myself will send her the cash, whereupon she will return stateside and have my babies. ) No , I’m not kidding. I researched it and it turns out Nigeria is a hotbed of online scams. But the new ones with the normal address but the not quite right letters I can’t figure. I’d love to open one so I can find out and warn other people if it is indeed a scam. My computer knowlege isn’t huge so I just don’t know what someone can learn from someones e-mail addy. Anyone got some beta for me?

For all those people who speak Hawaiian or know a thing or two about the language, how do you say "soul mate" ? I was watching a show and they said it but i forgot what it was, please help !(: Thank you(=

Is that a bad thing?

If you advertised in the personals on craigslist, what were your responses & experiences like?

I put an ad there lol. I’m getting replies but not answering but maybe one or two so far. I’m not saying much. Because I dont know these people. Just trying to keep it light & start conversation slow. I really just want an online chat buddy, never know what that can lead to. I tried eHarmony & that other singles dating service too but I didnt reply to the response I got.

Can anyone tell me what their experience was if they did anything on these sites in the personals?
LOL, Loving Father you are so right. You can meet so many crazies & nutcases right here in your home area, at the bars, at the clubs, in your building where you live, at work (i.e., disgruntled employees), or at school (i.e., the VA Tech killer), even people you grew up with and known all your life and in worst cases, family members.

I am sixteen years old and a senior in high school. I do all of my school online, so I don’t socialize too much outside of the theater I participate in. Recently, a guy asked me to be his date to his sister’s wedding. He’s also sixteen, a junior, and is in the same theater program. My parents have met him and like him well enough, (he came over to my house with some friends, and I’ve also been to a few outings where he was present) but don’t want me to go because they don’t want me to date. The exact word they used was maybe. It sounded to me as a ‘probably not’, though.

I feel as though it’s impossible. My family are ultra-strict traditional Catholics that don’t think I should date until I am ready to get married (I.E. out of college). They told me to ask our priest whether I can go or not, but I’m pretty sure he will say no —he’s incredibly strict (as in dresses or skirts have to hang below the knees, no dating is allowed at all, no being alone with a guy ever, no sleeveless tops, no ANYTHING. lol). The only way he might say yes is if I made it sound like this guy is only a friend and I know his sister. Which the guy is a friend (and nothing else — as of now i haven’t gone behind my parent’s backs at all) and I have met his sister (once… lol).

Also, my mom doesn’t trust me so she will probably make sure I asked the priest by asking him the same question from /her/ point of view. And she will say that we like each other as more than friends and that I was the only person he invited and that I don’t really know his sister. >_<

My mom knows that we like each other and that we’ve told each other we like each other. She also has told me that if she let’s me go to the wedding I have to make it clear that I am not in any way interested in a "relationship" or "dating".

I’ll never have a prom (the online school thing does kind of suck) and I feel like this is my only way to have a slightly normal experience in high school for once. Plus I obviously really like him… =)

What should I do?

If I were to express my opinions, I would be grounded for life and never get to do theater again. lol. Geeze, it’s a christian wedding, not a underground rave party or something. The hard part is my mom — she pretty much controls my family. My dad is christian (non-practicing Mormon) and my mom is the Catholic. My dad has no opinions whatsoever with our upbringing and leaves it to mom. I’ve tried to tell him this but he doesn’t listen. =/
I already told her about it and she said maybe… but she was the one that brought everything up about it being a "date." She seems to believe that just because a boy asked me to go, no matter what the event actually is, that it’s a date. AND SHE’S SOOOO STUBBORN!!

So I like this guy and he liked me too, it was really obvious and things, and were four years but that is really nothing, Im still in school and after i told him this he kind of backed off, but still showed interest. My family told me he probably still liked me but just was taken back by age difference, and that made sense. Anyway my sister wanted to go where he worked and was like okay sure. And when he got there he ignored me, and at one point i opened my mouth to say Salaam and he looked away. He looked real pissed. And so we just bought stuff there and left. Almost his whole family works there, and i noticed his cousins there used to like run up to him when we walked in, but this time, they all gave me weird looks..and its dumb because i have no idea what i did. I know my facebook got messed up one time. so he couldn’t see my wall, and just so happened it was my birthday that day, and deleted that setting right away, because it was an accident. And i said hi to him, when he was on idle, and he didn’t reply for like 30 min, and so i said "k your probably busy." Then he went online, and i thought he was gonna reply but then it went on idle again. And it really hurt, i cried alot even though it was my birthday. It felt like someone stabbed me. I mean i didn’t scare him off, i wasn’t constantly talking to him, I wasn’t like oh LETS GET MARRIED AND HAVE 5 KIDS. nahh, I’m not a creep. I was just friendly and he dissed me. I also noticed the girls he hangs out are really "interesting" like party girls. And I’m pretty sure he’s been with alot of girls. So have his dumb azz buddies. It just hurts cause I see it all the time, muslim guys dating "interesting" party girls. And if i do that with guys, they call me a whore. I wish I had never met him. I wish I never fell for it. And it’s thanks to him, my parents officially hate Arab guys (my family is berber)

And I keep having weird dreams with him in it and God is talking. I wish i didn’t have these dreams. I want him gone. We could’ve just been friends but he had to be an a$$hole.
@ AbdulMalik, insensative much, go somewhere else, NO ONE LOVES YOU. plus I know it’s god because You see Allah written in Arabic in the sky, and you can tell it’s Allah because you it’s a peaceful feeling. and satan can’t disguise himself as God.