I love to gamble; play the slots as often as I can, my limited income permitting. Am a retiree, 75 yrs. old, and receive a "non-service" connected, Disability Pension from the VA. This accounts for approximately 1/3 my monthly income – the remainder is from SSA.

Any income in addition to the SSA reported to the IRS, the VA wants to deduct from my pension. The law requires that any gambling wins over a specified amount – in my case, a slot win for over ,000 in 2007 – be reported.

The VA keeps tabs on these; but it usually takes 2-3 years for them to process, and then act on them. I’ve received such an action notice recently; and am in the process of gathering my documented losses: the VA accepts them to nullify the otherwise would be deductions. I have to contend with them nearly every year over these issues.

THE SITUATION: any Casinos that offer a "Card Club Membership" – an electronic recording system of amounts wagered/returned – offers thereby documented Win/Loss statements to a holder – and if one has these, the VA will accept them, and then there’s no problem.

But the particular casino where the JP was won, doesn’t. They will only give a patron a W/L recording card; and it’s up to the wager from that point on. I moved recently from one apartment to another in the complex where I’ve lived for the past 9-10 yrs.; and now, unable to locate the recording card on which I had kept a record of my W/L there.

I do have a computer print-out W/L statement from another casino – one which is now defunct – but it shows W/L for all the years I patronized it, and is dated for 2008(the only record(s) they could offer me, because of the idiosyncrasy of their set up); and shows amounts loss that would more than cover the 2007 JP won, at the aforementioned casino. I have not yet submitted this to the VA. Really not sure what to do.

There is an organization called AM-VETS(American Veterans), that has assisted me in the past with Gambling Wins/Losses litigation with the VA; but they don’t know what best to do either.

Any suggestions? Recommendations? Would really appreciate your thoughts on the matter.

Thank you,

Alberich
Thanks anyway MLL: it’s the thought that counts.
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"joe c": forgot to thank you for thanking me for serving our country.

I’m certainly glad that I did, and proud to have done so – but would have to admit, that I sure wouldn’t have cared for a repeat: a definitely "thank you", but, NO THANK YOU.
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"joe c": many thanks for your response. But afraid you’ve misconstrued my life situation.

I live on a fixed income; and to declare my gambling as a business – aside from the fact that I could in no way afford the declaration fee – would have an utterly disaterous effect on the governmental subsides I receive: so that it would not be a practical option for me.

If you don’t mind, have made you a contact; and should you wish, please feel free to email me – seems we may have some things in common.
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"joe c": forgot to thank you for thanking me for serving our country.

I’m certainly glad that I did, and proud to have done so – but would have to admit, that I sure wouldn’t have cared for a repeat: a definitely "thank you", but, NO THANK YOU.

I just want to know how being married is different than just dating? How long have you been married?

ive been dating my bf for a year.
friends for 3 years
we are 3 hours apart until june 1
i will be done my masters and moving back home to his / my city

since then i failed to live up to something i told him i would do
i have said several times over last year i was planning on losing weight to go from size 6/8 to size 2/4.
I dont feel comfortable wearing a swimsuit or wearing revealing sexy clothes with extra weigh on (im very petite boned)

anyway there were only a couple times he said odd things when we were just friends before dating (we each were dating other people then)

twice a couple years ago he told me out of th eblue he felt like "being mean to people"
then about a year ago he told me that if he wasnt religious he would probably act like "more of a sociopath"

but since he was a fun friend i shrugged it off.

so now fast forward and weve been dating ….things seemed to be going well
but then i found out from a mutual friend that he actually placed a personal ad on a christian personal ad site looking for a sweet smart church going girl who is "in shape"

i was beyond hurt because it was just after we spent a long weekend together (valentine’s day)

I decided to confront him online and ask him why he would do this. he said he was bored at work.
i let it go and since then we had a another long fun weekend.
but then i received the ACTUAL email he sent out to the mutual friend who told me about his ad.
he acts totally single.
Now I decided to finally confront him in person …

When he was relaxed and we were just chilling I asked him very seriously why he would put an ad online. That i felt he is trying to better deal and replace me.
At first he actually wanted to make a joke and change the subject.

then he suddenly turned on me and acted negative.

Even though I m a little overweight, i do exercise and eat well.
he told me im not in shape right now.
i told my friends this and they said that was crazy talk.

he then told me he has dated "a dancer, real model and a marathon runner" and that he looks cute chubby but it doesnt work for me. (Im not exactly obese ! size 6 or often a 4 in a lot of pants/skirts. my weight is mainly in my boobs and arms !)
he then added that im just coasting on my personality and the fact that Im devout believer with him right now.
Ouch
A lot of people , total strangers, give me random compliments on my looks. So I DONT understand his appraisal.

Since his sudden anger lashing out at me I now view him with trepidation.
Im trying to blame his sudden anger on being drunk, but he was sooo cruel.

The next day was Easter and he went back to being sweet and sunny towards me.

Is there something wrong with him ? Was he just being a mean drunk ?
he is nearly 36 and im 32 btw
i feel like there is this huge chasm between us. I am very UNDERSTANDING.
All he needed to do was explain why he did what he did.
Instead he added insult to injury by making me feel like an unattractive person in his eyes currently.

also, he does sweet things so it confuses me.

he once rescued two kittens and theyre now his beloved pets. (although he does offer them more affection and snuggles than me a lot. lol)

** and
he really has dated a dancer (his ex who left him) a "real model" (thats a crack at me because i did informal modeling)
and also a marathon runner who left him after they had sex.
he also works out a lot and is in great shape himself except for a small gut.

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and im doubly confused because the day after this huge blow up over my weight, he actually invited me to both his dad’s and brother’s separate upcoming birthdays……….

why does he want me to keep seeing him and being around his family (theyre very attached to me and tell him how great i am a lot)

New to the whole online dating world (wonder if I am too old fashioned for it).

When emailing someone met thru the online personals, is it typical to be flirty with more than one person? This guy and I have been emailing a lot for 5 months now, he is very nice and we met once- which I thought went great.

He says a lot of nice things and all and ends his notes with a kiss yet stays as single on the personals site. Normal or … ? Should I consider it just fun play and nothing more? I think he is fantastic and he is not too far away but am thinking now that maybe he only writes to be nice, or enjoys the ‘risk free’ world of online chat and Nothing more. (sigh)
I should add – we live about a full days drive from one anotherr, neither of us in the position to drive at the time being. Hmmm I guess I should not take it all as serious as I have been. Bummer…..

I have been seeing this guy for 2 years. We used to see each other 5 -6 times per week and now about four. He recently moved and has a female room mate. He still comes and stays with me for the night but I am a little concerned. I know there are Frid or Sat nights that he goes out with friends and other times with me. Sometimes he would even come with me to some boring work social events that I need to attend. We know we can count on each other for anything but..is he a friend or more?

It started my freshman year in high school where i met this girl. ( oh no, another girl question..i know but you girls are hard to understand sometimes :p) After talking to her for a bit I asked her out, she said yes. Our relationship lasted about a week haha. well i left that high school and went on with life and so on so forth. After about 4 – 5 years i bump into her again. accidental meeting due to my friend. Well after that meeting lo and behold we begin talking again. I actually finally gave into society and purchased a cell phone, just to talk to her may i remind you. We started talking off and on. and i started actually falling in love with her. I know big words but this feeling around her is complete happiness. Well one day she tells me she loves me. I took it like any other guy would and giggled like a little school girl. Shortly after we went on our first "date". life was good until something happened and well we stopped talking…again. To tell you the truth i forgot what we fought about, proves how insignificant our fight was, but nonetheless we stopped talking. After about 6 months we started talking again. She invites me to a party, which I agree on going. The day of the party i followed her to the party. When we get there she introduces me to her new boyfriend??? i acted calm and cool but inside i was boiling with anger. I leave to go pick up my cousin so I am not stuck at the party alone and when I come back shes gone. my cousin and I drink some beers and leave. I stop talking to her after that. A couple of months later, my aunt suddenly passed away. At the funeral, my same friend who accidentally reunited me with my ex, did it again, and brought her to my aunts funeral. At first I was a little pissed but i was just happy to see her. She admitted to me that her now ex was not a very nice person and that she really missed me. I stupidly forgave her and hence we started talking yet again! and yet again we fought over something insignificant and we stopped talking again haha. Recently, i needed closure over all this wonderful crap. So i texted her to explain to me what was going on. we talked for a bit and exchanged arguments and after that stopped talking YET AGAIN!
a couple of days ago we started talking but it just doesn’t feel the same. She says she still loves me but it just feel different now. And i hate it. I could never really be angry at her, but it really gets to me that she wont talk to me about stuff anymore. I guess what I’m looking for is a little advice at what you women ( and men) think I should do. I am not afraid to admit I really do love this girl, she is the best thing to happen to me and I would not mind it at all if one day we do end up getting married. But I am afraid for this future if we already constantly fight like we are already married. I don’t want to lose her but at the same time I’m tired of getting hurt and hurting her during this whole process. Thanks in advance for any help and advice you guys can give me and I also apologize for making this so long haha

I don’t get a chance to meet many men. And I don’t think that meeting them at bars is really the best thing! I’ve started "online dating.". I meet one guy from there. He was really nice but there wasn’t any sparks. Now I’m talking to another guy… How many guys am I going to have to meet until I find someone that I have chemistry with?

Anyone else have this problem?

I am searching for the basics on how to complete a personality profile and a basic psychological profile of an individual. The how to.

I am already in my late twenties living in such a meat market as Los Angeles is! I think is a challenge to meet god men here and decided to give online dating a try. I posted an ad in Craigslist but Ive been disappointed with the guys Ive met. Either they are not single, broke, or not my type. Do you guys think its the website that I am using? Can anyone give tell me a success story from this site?

Everytime on here I tend to get meaningful answers with seemingly sincere advice while on singles and dating that happens once in a while but for the most part I usually get useless one sentence answers.

I enter craigslist. I go to musicians and click on their ad. Then when I want to answer their ad, I click on the "pers . . . . . " to send a reply. It defaults(if you will) to the Yahoo send, but the "to" box never populates so that I can send the message, because there’s no address to send it to—the "to" box just doesn’t fill in like it used to.

my "friend" started dating my crush (whom i had STARTED dating) and now she tries to act like nothing ever happened. I’m not sure how to act towards her. Thing is, i have to work with her almost EVERY day.

thinking about online dating sites, but would like a recomendation. Yahoo personals, eharmony, chemistry, match.com

I have been talking to and for all intents and purposes, "dating" a guy online for the past 4 and a half months. I am seriously in love with him and he with me. But he is not a christian. I know it is wrong to date a non christian and part of me wants to break up with him, repent and move on. But everytime I try to I go back to him. I have been a christian since last May but have not really been living it. I want to though despite how I feel about this guy. Should I just stop talking to him altogther and let him wonder what happened? Cuz everytime I have tried to talk to him and tell him I ended up talking myself into staying with him. And he would do the same thing; talk me out of breaking up with him. I feel God pressing on my heart how wrong this is but it is so tough to break free. So should I just cut it off and not tell him anything? Thanks for your time and God Bless You.
To answer those who ask, "Where in the bible does it say not to be involved with a non-believer?" It says: Do not be unequally yoked with an unbeliever for what fellowship does light have with darkness?